Ok im going to get married in 7 days can someone tell me how to keep our marriage strong! I love him so much and I know that he is the one but I would love some advice. Oh yeah and he is in the army if that makes a differance!
2006-12-16 16:47:09 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just wanted some advice...Yall dont have to be so rude about it!
2006-12-16 16:50:26 · update #1
Be his best friend
Be A great listener
Tell him you are proud of him often
Be supportive
Be faithful
Remind him that he is the greatest
Be someone he can be proud of
Never give him reason to doubt your love
2006-12-16 18:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by answer lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We, men, I beleive, marry a woman we can trust.
1. Trust.
Trust is everything. If you lie to him, you are finished.
I mean, a big lie.
He beleives in you like in himself, don't let him down, please.
2. Respect.
Never put anyone in from of him, even your mother.
Cannot hurt more if you let him know he is less important than someone else. Especially if that person if your male friend. Here you are done too.
3. Care.
Try to cook for him, even if you cannot. Bring him a beer once a month, it's so easy.
4. A little appreciation.
Tell him he did a good job wasing the car, or something.
Just say it once a week.
NEVER cheat, not with money, not with anything else.
If you cheat him once, it will be almost impossible to start over.
Be honest with him.
2006-12-17 01:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by Mike S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to his heart and soul, not just his voice and body language. Learn to hear the unspoken ' words ' of his heart and respond to that. Also...communication, communication, communication. This may sound cold but does have some logic. How does a business / corporation make their business be a success ? They keep in communication, have retreats for their group (employees, CEO's etc.) every so often, they make sure they have management meetings to keep in touch to the needs and growth of the business, voice concerns, hear thoughts, make suggestions for improvement, acknowledge and at times offer rewards for good work done . . . you get the idea. Conduct your marriage as a business that cares for the success of that business. Yet, of course, the perks of being co-owners of that business and sleeping with the co-owner, loving the co-owner . . . you spice and warm up your marriage ' contract ' agreement as your heart warms you to. On a final note...communication, attentiveness, not to wane just because so many years have been shared, treat each others as boyfriend / girlfriend, not just husband / wife, mother / father. Always keep the individual as the boyfriend / girlfriend foremost in mind...that is the individual...the one you have pure love with.
2006-12-17 00:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by onelight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait another year and really get some marital counseling. If you are asking this question on here, that says to me that you really haven't done your homework on marriage. You have to get all the info you can from family, other married couples.....get counseling and ask all the questions you can and then......you would make a decision. 7 days before is way too late.....I don't want to say that it won't work....but the odds are against you right now.
wait a year, get counseling, ask a thousand and one questions and see if this is something you want to do. this is coming from a man that has been married for 4 years and is still happy.
2006-12-17 01:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by drastic91 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you both enter this marriage with the understanding that as time passes, you will have to work to maintain the passion and excitement that newlyweds feel you will be better off. Many people fail at marriage because they don't expect that it takes work to keep it good - Like an old house, it needs more effort to upkeep but the end result is just as good. Good luck!
2006-12-17 00:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by Star 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Knowingly your future husband is in the military.The physical strain between you both will affect you as he will be places you will not be able to go.I had a friend who's husband went to Iraq for 1 1/2 years but managed to keep her vows strong.
Trust is a factor.If he gets deployed,He is going to need to know if you will be there for him and wait for him.
Talk to other families in your area who's has loved ones in the military and ask how they handle their transition.
Make sure you keep in contact with each other and his family.You don't want to be one of these wives who doesn't commuinicate with their inlaws
Let him know how much you love him and you want to be a part of his life and built a wonderful marriage.
If he has this trust and comfort from you;You will have a lasting,loving marriage
Congratulations!!
2006-12-17 00:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by wsm0628 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish you both the very best!
Remember that after you're Married that you can't look for the "easy" ways to the problems that you'll face!
I really think that the divorce rate is so high because of such an easy way out of Marriage.
I'm Married myself for many years! It hasn't always been peaches and cream, but we've stayed together and aged together.
Good luck and God Bless You!
2006-12-17 01:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need to be there for each other and work on it as if it was the most important job of your life..and it is. when he is weak you need to be strong and visa versa as wellas when you are both weak you need to be able to lean on each other for support. Try to treat every day like it is the last day you'll ever have together. Set ground rules with porn, going out with friends ect and abide by them...but most importantly talk and listen to one another or you'll never know what the other is thinking or feeling. Lastly mutual respect and be ready to forgive each other for the mistakes along the way.....
I told my hubby most of this 17 years ago...he did it his way and felt marriage did not need work... soon I will be doing it mine--leaving...
2006-12-17 00:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by LostInTheCrowd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is seriously the biggest thing. COMMUNICATE!!! Don't ever assume anything. Next biggest thing is compromise. Figure out which way the toilet roll is going to go. (Believe it or not, little things like that have ended marriages). And don't sweat the small stuff.
And don't listen to the naysayers! I firmly believe that ANY marriage can work out, if given the proper care and attention.
2006-12-17 00:49:36 · answer #9 · answered by Viki 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Use the same line of principles that we've all learned when dealing with others. Be kind to one another, be respectful, don't put each other down, listen and share. There's more, but communications is the most important.
2006-12-17 00:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋