I think im pregnant, But my boy friend dont want anymore kids NOW and I do?

Question

What should i do please help me please

Answer 1

Hey,
I know it's easy to just say 'it's my baby and stuff him'...but he is the baby's father and he has a right to know what's going on with it...even if he doesn't want it.

Have you spoken with him about it?
The fact is, you may very well be pregnant, and there's nothing anyone can do about that. You need to decide if you are willing and able to raise a baby on your own if he decides that he isn't going to be a part of this baby's life.

Do you already have children together? Most men, I believe, when they already have children with a woman, learn to accept a new baby that they didn't initially want.

You both have some serious decisions to make about this baby and your future, especially if he decides it's too much for him.
Just remember that yelling and crying and getting emotional won't help. I know it's hard when you're pregnant but men respond to rationality.

Write out why you want this baby, write out what your compromises will be to some of the suggestions he might make.
You need to be rational and logical and put forward you point of view. You need to listen to him and make him feel like you're considering his point of view and his plans for the future.

Without knowing how long you've been together and other details, it's hard to really help.

Just talk to him though, he's going to know eventually...hard to miss a baby bump...and even harder to miss the screaming bundle of 'joy' in the nursery ;)

Answer 2

There is not much you can do but get a test and make sure what you think is right or wrong. Its the child u should be worring about not whether he wants the baby now or later. Its expensive and time consuming and your boyfriend will have no choice but to accept that he has another coming. Go To The Doctor and make sure. You might not be pregnant and go thru all this for nothing. If you are keep the baby if you can. If he has no intention of staying and helping you then to tha left because he has knowledge that there are condoms at the store and child support done the street. Do you baby girl!

Answer 3

I agree with Haley's statement that your first step should be to go to the doctor and find out if you're actually pregnant. If not, then I would suggest taking some SERIOUS precautions from here on out if you don't want more children.

As far as what should you do? Well, my opinion is that you should have the child. If he were so against having more children, he should've protected his future. If he wants to be there and help with the child, all the better. But don't let him talk you into giving up your baby just because he wasn't responsible.

Answer 4

he should respect your opinion. if he didn't want any more kids he should of had protection. There always the choice of putting him/her up for adoption or dump him and find someone that does want kids. but never get an abortion. Remember its not the baby's fault that his/hers parents got pregnant (not meaning anything bad)

Answer 5

If you're willing and able to care for the child do so. It's not only his decision.

If you are living together you'll have to come to some sort of agreement on this pregnancy.

Answer 6

I think you should keep your child. Screw your boyfriend...he's the one who got you pregnant in the first place. Aren't you the one holding it for nine months? So you have a definate say in this argument.

Answer 7

You are the one that is carrying the baby. Go, ahead and have your child.

Answer 8

if he's responsible enough he will take care of your child... if he doesnt... take care of the child and leave him :)

Answer 9

its your kid too, not only his. if you want to keep it, keep it.