I have been married for almost 7 years and most recently me and my wife sleep in separate bedrooms. Is this normal for anyone else out there? We don’t have sex any more, Please advise.
2006-12-16 16:14:16 · 21 answers · asked by Whydidigetmarried26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would advise the both of you to talk this out yourselves and if it doesn't work, go see a counselor.
2006-12-16 16:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal? What's normal? Normal is a statistical term indicating the number that constitutes the largest grouping in a particular population. If you're happy with your situation, who cares if it's normal or not?
I would guess that most happily married people - even after seven years - still have sexual relations, but I'm sure that there are many that do not. Is that normal? Probably not from a statistical perspective, but so what?
Married couples sleeping in separate beds/bedrooms is a lot more common that many people would think. It just works out better for them that way. Some still have sex, some don't. Some don't care about sex, some do.
Sex is not the defining element of a marriage; friendship and unconditional love is. A couple of years ago, I saw a TV report about celibate couples...who are happy that way.
By posting your question, however, I would guess that you are not - happy, that is. You ask, "please advise". Do you want permission to leave? get mad? have an affair? sleep with stuffed animals?
Don't obsess over "normal". Rather, decide what you want out of life and discuss that with your wife. It would appear that you have some work to do.
2006-12-17 01:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not normal, but I am answering this to let you know that you are not alone. I have been married for 20 years and haven't slept in the same bed with my husband for about the last 10 years. We haven't had sex since about 1997.
I don't have an answer as to what to do about it because I don't know the reasons in your situation. Like I said, I just wanted to say you are not alone.
2006-12-17 00:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by Deborah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not normal. My wife and I haven't had sex in three months. I just recently started sleeping in another room. We have three children. 11, 12 and 2. It's driving me crazy. I'm on the verge of either cheating or leaving. Haven't decided yet. I suggest counseling or talking about your feelings. Definitely let them be known. It can be really depressing. Hang in there. Hopefully honest communication will help. Believe me u r not alone.
2006-12-17 00:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tom B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it be boredom or something happened for one of you to fall out of love? Have one of you cheated and been unfaithful?
I would suggest both of you sit down with a marriage councellor and let out the real reason this situation took place. Go at the root of it if you still love one another and want to save your marriage.
2006-12-17 00:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, next step is moving out. Go through counselling or put an end to it. If there is no agreement to stop having sex, then it's not healthy. Is there an agreement about open relationship?
2006-12-17 00:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by Bikini bandit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's the arrangement that's comfortable with both of you, then fine. Is it? Only you and her know the answer to that. As for me, I'd rather sleep alone. I just can't sleep with someone right there beside me; no matter who it is.
2006-12-17 00:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know alot of couples who dont sleep in the same bed. One of them have been married for over 40yrs.
2006-12-17 01:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it isnt,, but you do not say how the rest of the marriage is????
or if you are american or indian etc... many cultures sleeping apart is the norm,
would suggest finding out why she wont have sex with you anymore, and go from there,
2006-12-17 00:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was my marriage it would be time to dump the wife and get divorced and if I stayed for the kids I'ld be gettin it else where . so I'ld have to say its not normal .
2006-12-17 00:27:15 · answer #10 · answered by crazy_ol_hippie_radical 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋