I don't know if am gay(bi)I falled in love with my friend(girl)and I don't know if it's true feelings or bad feelings because am scared if I am or NOT!!!sometimes I look at her wih real love and sometimes I wanna give her a kiss....but she knows what I feel for her....but am scared to realize that am really gay....AM I???
2006-12-16 16:08:11 · 8 answers · asked by smiley 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Please try and step out of this dilemma! You are much more than this "problem"!! This is only one aspect of who you are. If you feel pressure and anxiety, than give yourself a break from it. Focus on School, or a Hobby... Meditate, Relaxation, Horseback riding, Tennis, Go to the beach, listen to Music...
If you feel you are sitting on the fence on this, that's OK. Who says you have to decide? Go with what feels natural, in the right time. Don't force anything. If you do, you can always go back and do it differently. Be yourself! Love yourself! Even if you feel totally confused that's OK (by the way I'm 38, and I feel confused about identity and sex). Give yourself a break!
Love,
Gregory
2006-12-16 17:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really, the most important is to not panic. It's a rough time sometimes while you're still wondering. But what you are is you, no matter how hokey that sounds.
And I think it would be cool if you were gay or bi. Just like it would be cool if you were straight.
2006-12-17 02:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by Avalon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under the age of 18, nothing is for sure. Lots of adolescents get friendship confused with sexual attraction because emotions are in a developing state at that age. Just experience all your feelings, but don't act on them until you feel certain it is what you want. Listen to Dr. Drew on Love Line.
2006-12-17 00:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you?
It's normal to feel affectionate toward female friends that you admire, especially when you're young because you're probably subconsciously feeling confused about your own life.
Just relax. If you're still feeling that way in six months, let her know. If not, it was just a little crush and everything will be okay. But if you tell her now and she's not prepared to handle something like that, she could freak out.
2006-12-17 00:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by tulsasfynestdyme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a girl that's attracted to other girl(s). That would make you bisexual or lesbian in most people's books. Don't worry about labels that much and just be true to yourself. It's now time to accept that you aren't 100% straight. Also, if you like her then ask her out sometime.
2006-12-17 00:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are at least bi, if not gay, but don't rush into it, it takes some time to really tell!
2006-12-17 00:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by §~You can't judge me!~§ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why would you even think your gay. you need to kiss her and date girls, and then you will know for sure. if you want to kiss her your attracted to her, but you could be bi. are you attracted to men?
2006-12-17 00:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by avalon123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all depends, you can think someone of the same sex is attractive. but it really matters if you go after her or not. i say try it and find out, if she's cool with it. is she? if so, maybe she's open to new experiences. good luck!
2006-12-17 00:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by robyoung3484 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋