Does anyone know what it's like to be an outcast and have no idea as to why?

Question

I have never fit in anywhere, I have had true friends, my best friend commited suicide. But, tonight I find myself asking why, I am an outcast, I am a pretty young lady I think, even as a child, I was an outcast. I moved around a lot, and I seemed to get picked on, anywhere I went. And, I think I'm a good person, I just want to know if there is anyone else out there like me that has never, "fit in." I ended up in a small town with a population of 1300, some pretty nasy rumors got spread about me in high school, I'm still here, because I really can't move anywhere else because my daughters father lives here and he has to have the right to see her. Is it once an outcast always an outcast? just curious.

Answer 1

First, I am sorry about your friend. I know that hurts like hell.
I know of so many people, people like you who have felt like outcasts, no matter where they go or what they do.
There are many famous people, who have also attested to this very same feeling.

Small towns are notorious for their cocoon like clique, and outsiders will be outsiders forever sometimes.
Bigger cities tend not to subscribe to that social phenomenon, one because there are too many diverse people all together, and also, there are different mental attitudes in larger cities.

Perhaps some of these feelings emanate from the inside of you.
Because even as real as those attitudes and social shunnings are, you must actually accept the shunning to be a part of it.
You just live your life proudly. People who do not accept you, do not deserve you.
Decent people will see rumors for what they are, and will not judge you by that.

But don't live under the umbrella of those rumors.
People will spread lies and gossip until the end of time.
You won't stop that.
And you will never "live it down", because if the rumors are not true...you have nothing to live down.
Live your life for you...don't waste time.
Once an outcast, always an outcast?
In some people's mind yes.
In others' no.
The most important question is what YOU think.

Project yourself for what you truly are inside of your heart...believe me, people who are in tune with life will get it.
For those who don't, waste no tears, shame or worry on them.
You have one life and one only.
Don't waste time worrying about that which is not in your control, mainly, the thoughts of others.
If you are not happy, your child will not be happy.
Arrangments with the father can always be worked out, believe me.
If you have to move for the happiness of both you AND your daughter...then do it if you can financially.
Also feel free to e-mail for further.

Remember, the mind is our most perfect gift.

Answer 2

I think it's how you label yourself...if you label yourself a clown you'll always be trying to crack a joke, if you label yourself a misfit, you'll do all you can to make yourself not fit in...you have to make yourself think of the person you are as if another person is looking at you...I have a reputation of being a spaced out Greek philosopher type at work...i get so immersed into my creations on the 'puter, i can't always readjust into normal space and people think of me as a little off kilter...i don't mind that really, because it is just their impression of me...they don't know what i know and I don't have the time to explain it to them...as I readjust to their world. If you have the inclination and the time, research Bob Dylan, the folk rock singer of the 70's...he was definitely an outcast...people always wanted him to be the center of a revolution and the guy thought of himself as a poet or something (he never really said what he was, he just did it and didn't really care). Take care of yourself girlie, give yourself the same benefit of the doubt and breaks you'd give a stranger.

I lived on the edge of an Indian reservation as a kid, we had a remote resort, and we eventually moved to a small town...i think I am better for experiencing more than some twit from a small town who never saw anything but the park down the street and an occasional week vacation looking at a carving in a rock for a few minutes. You are better for seeing more of the world than some of these people...they may never change or be able to...you are able to adapt. find something that is yours that no one else can take away.

Answer 3

The truth is, you have to learn to like yourself before anyone else will. This is so much easier said than done. I've gone through many cycles in my life and have identified the pattern. When I'm worried about what other people think, I work too hard to be what people think I should be. As a result, I'm not happy and not making any true friends. When I decide I don't care what others think and forge on as my true-self, I find myself surrounded by people and friends. You must find a way to present yourself as you- 100% happy with who you are. The rest will fall into place.

Answer 4

don't log onto ****** It's a virus. To answer your question, NO! Get rid of the "kick me"sign on your back and start focusing on the good things about you. Focus on the good things about your daughter and tell her that beating to a different drummer is what you do.If rumors are persisting about you from leftover H.S. days, consider putting the word out that you will consider a defamation of character lawsuit for anyone that persists in it.Or just ignore it and start doing something on doing good deeds. i know about small town. They can be vicious, especially if you weren't born there.Just keep doing good deeds and the truth will be seen by others. One thing about being an outcast, you have more empathy for others who are in the same position.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

People are pretty weird today, and it could be that you make them uncomfortable just by being normal.