we were married for 20 years and have 2 teenage children. this was not the reason for the divorce. but i am more attracted to my own sex. my therapist says i should tell my children, but no one knows but my ex. how could this be of any benefit to the children?
2006-12-16 15:03:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It has no benefit to either them or yourself ,,, where did your therapist get their degree out of a cracker jack box ?
There is no NEED to tell your teenage children who your attracted to or why ..it will only serve to confuse matters further
unless your going to openly start flaunting your new desires in front of them?? .... if you are well then you will need to sit them down BUT if your not then what matter does it make whom you see AFTER all their needs have been met and your done being parent for the evening ...
then it is time for YOU ... what you do in your "free" time is your business .. if it forms into a relationship well then your going to have to bite the bullet and let them know
All the Best to you
2006-12-16 15:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some things are on a need to know bases... and this is one situation that i would say not to tell your children until you think that they are ready to handle it... there really is no benefit of it but in any case it would be better if they did find out from you rather then find out from someone else.. or by accident.. because then they will feel betrayed and may even recent you.. hope it works out how ever you decide
2006-12-16 15:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by JYB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you decide to pursue your attractions you should, probably, let the kids know. Unless, you can be sure they will not find out anyway. Bottom line, if they are to find out, it should be from you. This way you can answer any questions they have, and they will have some, before they have a chance to form opinions without benefit of your side of the story.
2006-12-16 15:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by dulcrayon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
decrease back in Jesus' time Jesus develop into really getting onto the Pharisees for turning out to be all sorts of loopholes so more beneficial human beings ought to get divorced. Like a guy ought to divorce his spouse for burning dinner and stupid such issues as that. in case you also observe the Bible is more beneficial about instantly marriages and not in any respect gay marriages. It also does aspect out divorce for being abused considering that little interest develop into paid to that difficulty decrease back in Jesus' time also. It does say it truly is alright to divorce a non-Christian if between the significant different's will develop right into a Christian, yet the different significant different is definitely adamant adverse to it (a million Cor. 7:12-16). All in all, i believe God doesn't like divorce in any respect, yet there are some cases the position it truly is in effortless words more beneficial healthy for both spouses. It rather relies upon on what the couple is getting divorced over to commence with. The 4 excellent motives that I keep in ideas from premarital classification for divorce (no longer so as) are funds, parenting adjustments, in-guidelines, and sex topics. again, at the same time as it contains divorce i believe God needs His little ones to have healthy relationships, yet in certain circumstances that merely isn't feasible because one significant different refuses to modify and promises up being violent or supply up playing or perhaps with is it is causing the kin to really disintegrate. search for counseling first to locate the issue extra to work out if that is a count that could be dealt with and solved over the years or if it truly is merely no longer danger-free to be around the different individual. desire this helps!
2016-11-26 23:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why then, would you get married and have children for? Your teenage children are going to feel very not too pleased about this whole scene. They may hop on the "to each his own" band wagon, but deep inside they are going to become disillusioned and angry ! You should of stayed single.
2006-12-16 15:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are not dating or having any type of same sex relationship, or planning to, i see no reason to tell them. if you are, and they are old enough and mature enough, i guess you had better tell. my question to you, is, did you marry because you didn't want to admit or accept the fact you had an attraction for the same sex? i know someone who did the same thing. tough world, ain't it?
2006-12-16 15:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by chris r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important (if your children are old enough) to be honest with them.
I'm sure they have some idea, and for their sake and your own it's just best to come clean and let them know who you are.
best,
cez
2006-12-16 15:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by cezzium 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you want to hurt your children with such garbage,you should have though about it be for you had kids and your wife if she knew.
2006-12-16 15:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No benefit to children..
Are you sure you are not just "Bi" ?
Lots of Bi women..
Bi women are more accepted and considered hot
by most men...
2006-12-16 15:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see Lisa @ yahoo answers
2006-12-16 15:12:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋