He might go to jail and he wont tell me why. What should i do????

Question

so my bf left me a meassage and he said he did something and might go to jail but he wont say what im sitting here about to cry because he wont even say why hes leaving and he sent me a message on MYSPACE which makes it worst is that he couldnt call i really will miss kissing him and talking to him heres is what he said:


hey baby i just wanted 2 tell u that i love u and i dont kno when ill talk 2 u again cuz sum stuff happened and i might be headed 2 DJJ. ur still me gurl and ill *** back 4 u. luv u allwayz ur man BLAKE



so now im sitting here about to cry because i just got this like 30 mins ago and he wont even tell me whywhich makes it worst im so worried and scared what should i do? because he lives to far away for me to walk and i cant find a ride to see him if i tell my mom she'll be like no you cant date him ( she knows who he is but she doesnt know w are dating)

e when i asked him he saaid nothin
I did call him & left a message so dont say that

Yall do not understand..... I havent got a chance to ask him personally. And Im not just worryin about kissing him what i meant is ill miss his touch and being with him. I do know him we stay up until 6 in the mornign talking. He doesnt have another girl either...if he did please believe me id know. I never lied to my mom. She met him before. But im going to stick by my man no matter what! Im just asking what i can do to make things better not if i should stay w/ him

Why if i'm asking for advice one larger older lady is going to say hes cheating on me??? He wont cheat on me . Even if he did i would know... i know his friends . They would of said something to me. Also Im going to stick with him no matter what . Ill find out what happens when the time comes.... Oh and hes not going to kill himself.

CAN SOMEONE WHO WILL NOT JUDGE ME OR HIM GIVE ME TURE ADVICE???? BECAUSE ONE LIKE 2 PEOPLE TRULY HELPED ME NOT TELL ME WHAT TO DO OR TALK BAD ABOUT MY BOYFRIEND.

SO BASICALLY IM ABOUT TO CALL HIM AND I NEED TO KNOW WHAT TO SAY

so if u can be open minded and help me im listening but im not listening to bs

For all u people who said he wants to dump me or ones who said hes no good should kno he most likely wont be going to jail or nothin i talked to his friend and he told me his mom might kick him out and the reason why i cant get to him is because she borke his phone

Theres more detail but yall dont need to know about that...... So I know a ;ittle about whats happening

But next time i post a question PLEASE respect me.

Courtney
i wont break up with him either

Answer 1

Get over him he is a loser!!


Respect you?? You need to get some sense knocked into you! Is that the kind of life you want for yourself? If you want settle for a loser then you don't deserve any respect! You will think of this in 10 years when you have 6 kids with the jerk and you are on welfare because he is locked up again and you can't scrape up enough money to feed your kids!


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Answer 2

He won't tell you why? That is a majorly bad sign.

It sounds like you really care about this guy, but I would keep my distance until I found out exactly what is going on. You don't know what he's involved in, and the "I don't know when I'll talk to you again" and the "I'll come back for you" make me think he is running away rather than staying and facing the consequences for whatever he did. And you don't go to jail for stuff like petty shoplifting or smoking pot, so whatever he did must be pretty bad. As sweet as he might act towards you, I don't think you should trust him until you have all the information about what happened. If you know his friends, you could try asking them.

If he does come back for you, DON'T go anywhere with him. He's obviously very scared of something or someone. If he really loves you, he'll recognize the fact that you're safer at home with your family than you would be with him, and he will not want to risk putting you in danger.

Answer 3

If he wont tell you about it, then it's probably pretty bad. I'd forget about this guy because he'll bring you nothing but trouble. It sounds like you're still very very young and this guy probably holds quite a spell over you right now, but you have to let him go.
Guys that get in trouble with the law when they're young, have a higher instance of legal problems in the future. You don't want to have a baby daddy in jail do you? Let him go and focus on school.

I know it's hard for you to hear this, but as someone who has lived a lot more of her life than you have, you need to believe me.

Answer 4

I really feel for you and your situation. It sounds to me like there could be a couple of things possibly going on here. Either he is very ashamed of what he did and just can't bring himself to tell you, or he is just looking for a way out of this relationship with you and is too much of a wimp to be honest about it. Either way you really dont need the drama in your life! Only time will tell what the truth is here, but you can try to look him up on your local law enforement websites to see if you can get booking info on him. Be strong and know that as time passes things will get easier on you. Hang in there and I wish you the best.

Answer 5

He just sad this to you because he is seeing someone else and don't want you to know ... not yet anyhow and if, it doesn't work out with the other girl he will be back for you! Or you could call his mom or call the police station and see if they have him in jail!
But, my guess would be he wants to spend x-mas with another girl and had to make up a story so , you don't find out! I say get a real boyfriend!

Answer 6

A man that would be leaving a woman to go to jail or on an extended trip without telling her why would have no place in my heart or life. Communication, honesty, value of anothers feelings...each of those elements are missing here. The destination is not the question here...it's the lack of communication and thought of you. Let the man go (permanently) and move on your own journey.

Answer 7

So sorry to hear that your BF is facing such a hardship. I know it'll be hard to stay calm, but you have to in order to be able to think about all of this rationally. Now, once you're calm, sit back and think (somewhere quiet) back: were there any times when you knew of where your BF was doing anything? Has he or any friends of his been into anything? Has he disappeared for any length of time? Can you account for his whereabouts? If you answer yes to any of these then you may already know why. It could be something one of his friends got him into. I noticed you said, "DJJ." I used to work as a case manager and know that those initials stand for the Dept. of Juv Justice so I assume he is a minor? You can always call a family member or one of his friends too. Yo umay have to do a little DT work.
But now, keep in mind that you have some decisions to make too. For example: do you want to be with someone who is unable to communicate with you about such important matters as encarceration? Communication is the foundation (as well as trust and honesty) of any relationship. So if he does not value that or respect it's weight, then....he may not be a real keeper just yet. Anyhoo, try to stay calm. I know your heart is breaking, but this too shall pass...be it good, bad or indifferent....it will pass one day. Now ,as far as your mom goes: don't ever decieve your mother for anyone. Anyone. I know it may not seem like your mom knows best rightn ow, but when you're 36 (like me)...you'll realize that everything (or almost everything) she tried to tell you in your youth was so true. Be honest with her as you want him to be honest with you. If this young man is into something illicit or dangerous you could get entangled (it's called guilt by association) or maybe even get hurt! No one is worth that. But not to jump the gun because we don't really know what's what yet since he hasn't divulged anything. But I would not advocate you hiding this from your mom or sneaking behind her back. Just tell her your friend may be in some trouble. She has to know just in case this turns out to be something really bad.

Try writing him a letter too; in it reassure him of your love and let him know how important it is for you two to talk about this. Let him know you have his back and let him know that it's always good to have a support sysytem. Why? Because he'll definitely want you writing him when he's locked away from society with no one else giving him love or words of encouragement. So he needs to tell you. Good luck to you both and God speed.

Answer 8

If he really cares then he will tell you what it is! Do you two live in the same city? If you do and he's in jail then this is what you do. Go to the courthouse and go to the floor that have public records. Type his name in. This will bring up what he's going to court for and why. Then you make the decision if he's worth the drama. Hope you keep your head up

Answer 9

move on, this guy is a loser and is headed for trouble, this is not going to be the last time he goes to jail and takes you along for a ride if you decide to stick by him, if he really cared about you and your feelings then he would have told you why he is going there and what he did to get into trouble in the first place, since he wont tell you what anything then move on and don't tell him anything...

Answer 10

I say let him go and wish him luck! Jail might straighten him out so he will quit breaking the law. Maybe. Don't be heart broken over a loser. Get away from this ****** as soon as possible and start dating guys WITHOUT a criminal record. Have some self-respect!