good money want to start pay day loans and get in so deep he wants to divorce his wife. but before that make life hell at home by controlling everything including all money groceries, and being emotionally and verbally abusive to wife. and now is in bankruptsy and wife still does not understand whats going on with him. and he acts like its all her fault for spending to much money which is not true at all.since he controls most of it. does not apolotgize say he is sorry are nothing what is wrong with him
2006-12-16 14:46:14 · 14 answers · asked by tiger 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like a jerk...or having a mid life crisis....
2006-12-16 14:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG. That entire situation is a nasty mess not even worth salvaging. The man is obviously a very troubled, miserable, selfish control freak who is unwilling to take responsibility in the sorry state of affairs in his marriage. She should leave him and file for divorce. Move out with the children. Stay with relatives until she can find a place and a job if she doesn't have one, and just start over.
2006-12-16 22:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Split personality? Complete lack of common sense? Unfortunately, this is more common that you'd think - people spend way more than they think they do, then start taking out loans to cover a shortfall....which just makes the situation worse, as they take out more loans to cover the original ones.
And of course it's easier to blame the other spouse than youself.
2006-12-16 22:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by physicsmom04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a controlling person who has gotten into financial problems that he doesn't know how to fix.
I would suggest the wife find a very good lawyer to protect herself from his mess and to try and find a way to financially take care of her children.
She should do this before the sh*t hits the fan....and from what you say that's going to happen very soon.
2006-12-16 22:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The man during one of his Spells needs to only take a look at the faces of his children to see the look of horror-disgust and fear as his spell unravels. How emotional dead this man must be to want to continue treating his family this way. I feel so much sorrow for his family and sorrow that he is so emotionally and spiritually spent.
2006-12-16 22:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Extra Blue Note 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is ill mannered mean and selfish. Thank god he is planning to divorce you. You will be liberated from shabby living. You should be happy. See a good layer when he files his papers and make sure you get sufficient alimony and child support. Dont file the papers first.
2006-12-16 23:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to get her name off as much paperwork as possible, credit cards and such if possible. may need to contact a lawyer
for advice also on legalities. sounds like he is heading towards divorce, and if the eife makes more she will get stuck with the bills. i would get credit card receipts or bill statements and see where the money is going.
2006-12-16 22:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by sharma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His wife wants to stay with him for the kids, eventually if she is strong, she will leave, but she may need alot of support from family and friends.
2006-12-16 22:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by KerryAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting into debt is easy, getting out is hard. It is easy to put the blame on someone else because it is hard to look at yourself and see how bad you messed up. Maybe counseling would work.
2006-12-16 22:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hurting and taking it out on you, he feels pressured cuz he cant help his family, we always hurt the ones we love....talk to him and support each other.....God bless ya
2006-12-16 22:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋