I fell in love with my best friend 3 years ago. I finally told her this past winter. She ended our friendship two months later, in April, breaking my heart. 8 months later, I am still heartbroken. I love her and miss her and want her to be with me. I just cannot say goodbye or accept that this is real, she is gone. How can I move on from this? I do not love anyone else, do not see how I can really love anyone else. I do not know what to do. I never had a relationship or even kissed, as I posted before. I feel devastated.
2006-12-16 14:35:08 · 6 answers · asked by jelliclecatharsis 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I gave this answer to someone else before, but I'll give it to you as well.
Every event in your life, the good and bad, help to make you the person you are. Each passing moment helps you to grow and mature. "With experience comes wisdom."
Learn from your past rather than trying to forget about it. Make the pain worth something.
2006-12-16 14:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I take it that this friend of yours is straight. She may be afraid that you cannot be friends anymore because you will always want to have a relationship with her.
My best advise is to try and move on the best you can. If you still see her every once in a while and it is uncomfortable or brings back the wanting to have a relationship, then you may need to change where you go or where you work or not go to where ever she is or will be.
Try and find another friend that may be gay. Try and be friends first and then if something else develops then great, but at least you will have another friend that you can talk too and maybe that person can help you when you are devastated.
Keep your chin up and get out there and find a friend. The rest will fall into place. Who knows maybe your friend will call you and want to be a friend, not a lover, but a friend. You can never have too many friends can you.
2006-12-16 22:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by Joel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is so sad.. i feel aweful that this happened to you.. it's really unfortunate that people can love and accept us gay/ bi folks for who we are..
love, crush and heartbreak may take a lot of time to get over.. i went thru a period of 3 years of this due to a rejection..
all you can do is try to live a busy life.. hang out with family and friends, take up a new hobby, get into sports and fitness, get into music.. keep busy.. work harder at school or work, which ever one you are in.
focus on the future.. be a possitive person that others will want to be around. reach out and be kind and loving to people in need.
love is around the corner, at least i hope it is!
2006-12-16 22:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WELL YOU CAN EITHER GO BACK TO HER SEE IF SHE WILL TAKE YOU BACK
or move on to someone better cause she didnt want to you a person hurt a nother person for a reason
if she come back dont be ez and take her back make her feel the regret that she lost a good person
2006-12-16 23:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there must be some misunderstanding between 2 of u.try to remember n find out the reasons she broke ur heart.perhaps u can approach her to find out n apologise.constant contact either by phone or correspondance if she stays very far from u.face to face is the best way to solve all problems instantly.but here u've to find out whether it is a one-sided love?
best wishes.
2006-12-16 22:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over this...but some hurts never entirely heal..they just lessen in pain over time. It's sort of like a broken leg: It heals but you will always limp. Be good to yourself right now.
2006-12-16 22:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋