im at a loss?

Question

i never saw it coming. I hit a patch of "black ice" on a hiway, lost control of my truck, went into a ditch, rolled and hit a tree. I survived, but my five year old son did not. I drink 24/7 now, lost my job and my wife divorced me. Iam at my witts end and about to just say the hell with it and cash it in....GOD I MISS MY SON.....I think i need help, but the pain is just so much i cant stand to talk about it

Answer 1

talking about it is the only way you are going to get through the pain.....if you dont get it out it will eat you alive from the inside.....find someone you can trust to help you through this....OR...you can keep it all in.....continue to drink 24/7 and you will die....hopefully it wont be on a highway while you are driving and it wont involve anyone else.....
Your son would be very sad to know that you gave up on life because of an accident that was un avoidable.....very sad indeed....Cowboy up!...forgive yourself and get your **** together....You still have a life.....Make it good, make it count.....
YOU CAN DO IT ! ! ! !

Answer 2

You NEED to talk about it. This is the only way you will heal. If you can't speak to family or friends about it, then you need to find a good councelor and talk about this. It's not healthy to keep all the pain and grief bottled up inside you, sooner or later you'll explode. Parental grief is an overwhelming sense, a sense that the pain will last forever, a sense that the grief is etched into one's very being, but if you get the proper counseling you will at least come to terms with what happened. First, you should find a councelor then get help for the drinking. Sure, the alcohol may dull your pain, but it's only a temporary fix to your problems.
They have special groups of people that have gone through what you have, losing a child. You need to find on of these groups and attend them. They know exactly what you are going through and they all help each other and give support to each other.
Remember you son. Do you think he would want you to be this way? I wouldn't think so.
I hope in time you will heal. You'll be in my prayers tonight.

Answer 3

You need to know that it was not your fault...things happen, and all of them for a reason. I know you probably don't want to hear this but you need to. Talking about it is the only way to heal. You Loved your son and that is great...you still do. So just think if he was still alive you wouldn't want him to see you like this right? He is looking down on you right now and hoping his daddy gets better. I wish you all the best and hope you go get help. May God be with you at all times.

Answer 4

My god, I am so incredibly sorry. What an aweful heartache for you to carry around with you. You must be plagued by guilt, even though YOU KNOW it's NOT your fault.

Please go and get some help from a professional counsellor. I know it is really hard to talk about, but I promise you after a while the burden shared will make it slightly easier for you to bear.

Please go and find help. I wish I could help you - I can't imagine how you feel. I'm just so sorry to hear that happened.

Answer 5

i dont know how you feel because my hsband and i dont have kids but i lost my grandpa and he and i were sooooo close. so i know how it feels to lose someone close to you. you are a strong person being able to talk about this to actually say you have a problem and want to fix it. may god bless you!! now to get you on the right track. you should go to a childrens hospital and ask to help. help with anything reading to the children just anything. i know you want your son you want your wife back you want your life back, but this will make you feel better. it can give you something to look forward to doing. just think of how many lives you can touch. dont give up on yourself. you can do so much for others and in return you yourself will feel so much better.
i am truely sorry for your loss i only hope my words can help you!!! have a great holiday!

Answer 6

I am so sorry for your loss... I do understand... Jan. 21, 1994... my 16yo son... was carjacked, kidnapped, and murder for no reason... I thought I wasn't going to live through the pain... In time things do get better... you never forget... hang in there... you have the power to correct the job situation... and you can find another person to share your life with... also an AA group can help with the alcohol... and with the other problems your having... but as far as your son... I have no words to concole you... just let time take care of that... Good Luck and please hang in there.

Answer 7

First off I am going to say I am very sorry.
I can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling right now.
It doesn't help to ask why you survived, things happen that sometimes we can not answer or explain.
I know you miss your son and I truly believe you will see him again one day.
Please don't drink your life away, your son wouldn't want his father to do that.
Take care and hold on things will get better.

Answer 8

You needs some serious grief counseling and probably some inpatient alcohol rehabilitation. You can get through this but it is not going to be easy. Stop and ask yourself, do you want to be the kind of man your son would have been proud to call his daddy? Are you that kind of man now? Good luck to you.

Answer 9

I would encourage you to go to your county mental health place. They will evaluate you and set you up with help. One thing I've detected from you is that you are not only blaming yourself, but can't forgive yourself! Though I haven't gone through what you have, I know that this is more than you can bear and you can't do it alone. Please seek help! I know you won't regret it! Take care!

Answer 10

are you freaking seirous?
stop drinking
your son would want you to be happy...find someone else && go to your sons grave (if he was burried) almost everyday ... keep him in your prayers&& find another job