My boyfriend of a year and a half, the man I thought that I would marry has just walked out on me. We had a fight and I don't think he is coming back. I am devestated and crying right now. What do I do?
2006-12-16 13:40:22 · 21 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he doesn't come back he never intended to stay anyway.
2006-12-16 13:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by tim b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not call him or take calls from him. You need some time to gather your thoughts. Take a walk or a drive to clear your mind.
Ask yourself - what was the fight about? Is this something that will continue? Evaluate the situation before you react.
Don't listen to your friends and their bogus advice - if you are spiritual, say a prayer and ask for guidance. At the very least you must have some quiet alone time.
2006-12-16 13:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by Buttercup - VP Bamma Fan Club 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear you are going through this - especially at Christmas. What did you fight about -have you tried calling him? I mean he can't just "walk out" of a year and a half relationship without some sort of explanation. If he refuses to talk to you then I would think he wasn't the man for you in the first place. He owes it to you and your relationship to talk to you and hopefully you two can sort out your differences.
Good luck and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-16 13:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go on and cry for as long as you need to.
Then you start to rebuild your life without the guy who could walk out after a fight.
It doesn't seem like it now but this may be a blessing in disguise.
Would you want to be here on YA and ask this question about your husband of a year and a half?
You hurt now but hurting doesn't last forever.
2006-12-16 13:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember the world doesn't revolve around one guy you met! This may be the best thing that has ever happened to you! A guy who has an argument and walks out and doesn't attempt to confront the problem, will do this after marriage too! Find someone worthy of your attention!
2006-12-16 13:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What was the fight about? Another woman or man? Do you live together? Were you "crowding in" on his space? You must answer these questions. Do you still love him? If so give it another chance. Maybe he did not want to get you a Christmas gift.
2006-12-16 13:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by cm f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first ask Jesus for help.just chill out.he has been with you for that long probably because he really likes you.he is probably just pissed off.give him a few days.only u know what the fight was about.if he was in the wrong and being selfless then don't go running after him.let him realize what he has done.if its your fault.let him calm down... then if you can call him to apologize.if you don't know who's fault it is.ask someone u now there appending.
2006-12-16 13:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by derrik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the cause of the fight was. General rule is to give him time to chill, and then talk about it when things have cooled down. You don't want to make any hasty decisions.
2006-12-16 13:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by Nina Abb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never make any decisions while you're upset. Wait for a few days for things to calm down and maybe things can be discussed.
2006-12-16 14:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry.i feel sad for you..be strong.i know what you feel.it happend to me.my exhusband and i got married in a civil,after 4yrs we talked about lets get marry again in a church he said yes.we have kids he worked abroad.and were not seeing each other only twice a yr.i fixed all things for our church wedd but later on he wants to divorce me and i was shocked because after we got married in 2002 he went back to state and i didnt know all about this and had live in partner...i have to let him go and say goodbye eventhough im still inluv with him...he doesnt deserve my love....but still i keep on praying to him that god will take him back for good...godbless...hope you will fix things right...
2006-12-16 15:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was the fight about? If one of you had an affair, he might not be back. But if you forgot to put the cap back on the toothepaste, he will be back...your question is just too vauge
2006-12-16 13:45:17 · answer #11 · answered by cott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋