Do you think a wife should be able to pick out her own car?

Question

To me the idea seems silly since most women don't even know how to change a tire or oil, so why should they get to pick out their own car? Besides, picking out a car is a man's job. Sometimes women get to into the looks of a car without knowing the mechanical reliability behind it. Am I right here?

Answer 1

Actually statistics have shown that over 75% of all car purchases made in the US are ultimately chosen by women. Their primary criteria (within their price range) in order of importance: safety, reliability, ease of maintainance, fuel efficiency (economy), utility, ergonomic design, power and handling and last "looks". Men tend to be the ones to reverse these factors. Studies have shown that while men who purchase vehicles tend to only consider themselves, women consider the needs of the entire family including the children.

Answer 2

I think the woman and the man should pick out the car together. You are correct about a woman not knowing all the details about a car, but if it is her car, then why not let her have say? Some women DO know how to change a tire or the oil. Men and women should be treated equally.

Answer 3

Depends on who is driving the car more? and who is paying? If I drive, I pay, I will decide. if he drives that car, I do not care. If he pays and I drive, I will give him some suggestions -- such as hum.. that car make me feel happier... I do not why...If he says no, there is no reasoning to talk. The relationship between a man and woman, is not rational -- so there is no reasoning at all what is right and what is wrong. Just do what is possible for the situation. I am not saying you cannot challenge your husband. But you know the best to what degree you can test him. If you want to challenge, measure the steps.
As for knowing cars, both of you should buy something like Comsumer Report to know some statistics and price information before going to the deal. Changing oil has nothing to do with owning a car. a lot temp workers work at Jiffy Lube do not own cars

Answer 4

See.......this is how problems start. As a male lucky enough to be married, I have learned that even when you wife "might" be wrong (about a major purchase purhaps) you NEVER say things like, this is the mans job, or you don;t know how to make this decision.

Case in point, my Mrs and I did go car shopping. She did fall in love with some cars that lacked practicallity for our situation. For example, purchaing the cute little red toyota wasn't the best option since the car would eventually need to haul around a baby in a car seat. So instead of just telling her she was wrong, I talked through the pro's and con's of the vehicle with her (making sure the cons were indeed winning) and let her make the decision. She chose a better fit and she didn't at all feel like I was being a jerk.

Answer 5

Seems to me if she was able to choose a husband she could choose a car!
Nothing personal, but why don't you consider your "daughter" presenting you with the same notions...get with the new millenium. I am 50 and can ride a Harley, dock a boat, change my oil, maintain my own car, apply for a loan...etc. Gone are the days when ONLY a man can do this or that. Yes it is very nice to have someone who can-but if you died-where would she be?
If you are so concerned that she is so superficial, why not just use a list of most important virtues in the new car---like 4w/d or not, economy or not, mileage-lease/own, stick/auto...does she commute or haul kids or both? Do you let her pick out the vacuum cleaner?

Answer 6

Think about the things you trust your wife with? She is probably very capable in many areas, especially since you married her. My husband and I always start with my reasoning for wanting a specific car - we then do very diligent research to determine if it will be a good buy or not. Don't discount her opinion because she is a woman, she has to drive it, and should have some input.

Instead of trying to be right, be helpful. If your wife chooses a car that isn't good quality, show and tell her why. Guide her to a better vehicle, and value her voice in the matter. You would want the same respect. Work together!

Answer 7

hm believe me not all women lack the ability to do some work on cars. I was married to a man who had no idea of how to change a flat tire. My dad was a excellent mechanic and living out of state I'd call him if I had a problem with our cars and he'd describe over the phone what I needed to do or replace to fix the problem. Worked for me every time. And my ex never lifted a finger to help me. So I'd say I'd be pretty upset had he told me I couldn't pick my own car. ;o)

Answer 8

Your right on fixing the car, but that is why there is this thing called MECHANICS. Every women should pick their own car
especially if they are paying for it. They work hard for what they
are getting and NO MAN should have to choose for them. We
don't choose a car for our man, so why should they pick for us.
If the girl is getting it as a present then go ahead and pick, because your buying and that would make it a gift. Now I'm
I right here? YEAH DUDE!! Oh just to let you know I do know
how to change my tires and do and oil change. I'm a little disabled
so I can't do it myself. I know how to do a radiator flush, change
my lights on my car when they burn out. add fluids to my car.
I can learn but with my disability it is stopping me from doing
the things I want to do with everything and anything.

Answer 9

i think a wife should be able to pick out her own car if you dont think the car is mechanical sound you should tell her and if your relatioship is right she will respect what you say in the same since you should allow her to pick out a cute car
maybe you should pick it out together//you look at the mechanical part and she pick out all that girl stuff
together you should come up with a car that you both will be happy with
good luck

Answer 10

Have her look at her car's ratings for reliability on the internet as posted by an independent rating company.

Really, if you aren't doing the work and buying the parts, why should you care? Methinks the real problem is your need to control things.

So... you're wrong for not extending the option. You only wish to do the choosing. It is a man's job to lead his household, not to be a hardass.

Answer 11

Women are smarter than you think. I do my research before I shell out a lot of money for something. I look into what the car offers and the safety. I check out the blue book value to make sure that I am not paying too much. You can suggest going with her to pick out the car but try not to take over. You can give your advice but over all it needs to be her decision.