Need advcie please !!
14 year old daughter, has horrid discharge. (not normal)
I've booked her a Gyno appointnment, but she's refusing to go.
She's been in tears, and is adamant that she's not going. lol
I talked to her, and reassured her about the appointment, and exam.
What else can i do.
Can i force her to have it ? Don't really want to, BUT she really needs this exam.
please help me thankyou
2006-12-16 13:23:23 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
She's 14 so she's still a minor so you should drag her kicking & screaming to the gyno to have her checked out.
If you don't it will only get worse & could possibly make her infertile
2006-12-16 13:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by Not Trish 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It feels like a yeast illness (if it has a fishy scent). This occurs whilst the micro organism for your vagina will get lessened through a few difference--alterations can comprise pressure, hormonal fluctuations, making use of antibiotics. As for the examination, honeslty, do not fear approximately it. I recognise they're frightening, I used to be freaked out earlier than my first. But the pleasant factor you'll do is ask the health care provider to make use of the smallest speculum, they are known as virginal speculums. The insertion think atypical, however it is not painful. I truthfully consider it hurts not up to a tampon. And the health care provider might be out and in of there in seconds, it is not a drawn out process that lasts a part hour. She/he's going to insert the speculum, take a fast appear to look the inflammation, and swab it to do a tradition. Again, such an examination will not be critical. The document could also be ready to diagnose you only at the description of your signs.
2016-09-03 15:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD FORCE HER!!!!!!!!!!! she could have something terribly wrong with her. My mom says even if you don't like it at least you'll be better but she says that when i went to the dentist though........ but thats not the point.I know the gyno my seem scary or weird to a 14 year old cause that is how i still feel. i am sorry but right about now you should not listen to what she wants because she may not think it is very serious!!!!
Tell her all the ups about going to the gyno. that way she will not be all that afraid. And you can tell her that she can have a lady nurse in the room with them that is optinal.
2006-12-16 13:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by blondebeauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her go. It could be something as simple as a yeast infection or something like an inflammed cervix which will cause discharge. tell her she is entering into the woman world and she is old enough to see a new doctor. it doesnt hurt. she is probably more embarrassed than anything. If she is 14 and has her period she should be seeing a gyno at east once a year anyway. she might be upset now but she will thank you in the long run.
2006-12-16 13:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by gtoritto00 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to make her go. It sounds like it could be just a yeast infection, but also it could be clymidia(which is sexually transmitted) You are the parent and its your responsiablity to make her go. Talk to her, support her, but don't get mad at her. Or else she'll never tell you anything again. Try letting her pick a doctor, When my daughter went to the gyno the first time the doctor let her come in a meet her first to make her feel comfortable. Another source for help is planned parnethood.
They are used to dealing with young girls and they might be able to help you. Good luck
2006-12-16 13:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by dee g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man.She is nervous, apprehensive and ashamed.However ,as a parent, you are responsible for her health as a minor.As a young woman,she will have to undergo a gynecological exam sooner or later.Whatever condition she has will not get any better.Assure her that whatever the results you will support her and relate your first experience to her.Can you book her with a friendly female internist or gyno and be present when she is being examined?The following site may be helpful.
2006-12-16 13:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by kalusz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really do need to make her go. Is she sexually active? If you don't know, then perhaps it's something that you should talk about because this might be the reason why she is reluctant to go - the gyno is going to know immediately upon starting the exam whether or not she has had sex. She needs to know that you have her support no matter what her circumstances are.
2006-12-16 16:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by Liberty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon she may have had sexual encounters and afraid of your finding out. This is a Possibly very serious thing anything from A nasty yeast infection to clymidia. If she is sexually active (i hope she isn ot fo her sake mentally and Physically) you'll need to get her on the shot as a back up to condoms. Assuming she will use them. Just get her to go! Even if that means getting 3 grown men to drag her in there. Just get her there.
2006-12-16 15:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess you'd have to ask yourself "who's in charge here????" I would guess it should be you since you are the parent and she is the child. There is no choice she HAS to go. Ask her why she won't go. But the smell you are describing could be a really bad infection. Tell her what the consquences of her not going may be. If she doesn't get checked out and someone at school notices this and realize you haven't taken her for treatment, you could theorhetically be reported for child neglect. It's your responsibility to see she gets the care she needs. If she's kicking and screaming, so be it.
2006-12-16 13:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by spababy606 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you can force her to go and yes you should. If she has an infection of some sort and you didn't make her go it will only get worse. You are responsible for her health and well being, so take her to the doctor even if she throws a tantrum about it. As parents we have to make decisions for our children that they don't like, but when they grow up and have children of their own they will appreciate you making those decisions.
2006-12-16 13:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by Country girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are her mom and you have to do whats best for her, even when she doesn't want to go. You need to make her go and go with her. Explain everything that is going to happen and reassure her that the doctor does this for a living and she has nothing to be embarrassed about. She most likely doesn't want to go because she doesn't want someone looking "down there." Talk to her, comfort her, but tell her that she has to go and it's for her own good. Explain to her that if she has an infection it could affect her reproductive parts - so she needs to be seen by a doc.
2006-12-16 13:27:50 · answer #11 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋