My wife says other wives are allowed to go out after dark by themselves but to me that just sounds like being a bad husband. I told her not without a male relative escort.
2006-12-16 13:09:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
where the heck do you live? ANd in what century? You are almost too stupid for words! Your thinking is ancient and your questions are dumb. If you are worried about your wife's safety enroll her in some self defense classes. She doesn't have to be followed everywhere you loon!
2006-12-16 14:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by Amy R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course! He is NOT my master.l He does NOT control me. I can say or do what I want, go where I want when I want, etc. I am a human being just as he is. I am a big girl, a woman, NOT a child that needs to be walked everywhere. I don't try to control him; he doesn't try to control me. We don't 'let' or 'allow' each other to do anything; we just do what we want. If it is something that concerns both of us and or his girls, then we discuss it and agree before doing anything. Other than that, we are both humans, Americans with free will and free spirit, and are not controlled by anyone. God is the only one allowed to tell anyone what to say or do or where to go and when. If anyone says or does otherwise, they are controlling jerks with a warped sense of how things are 'supposed' to be and the women shouldn't be with them. Guys that are like that should have been born in another century, not this one!
Sorry for going off, but this is a touchy subject for me as I had been controlled for way too many years first by my parents, then by my ex husband. I refuse to be controlled ever again and I advocate freedom to the fullest.
2006-12-16 15:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start with my hubby doesn't let me do anything.I am a grown woman I do what I want when I want.There isn't a woman I know that doesn't go out by themselves after dark or any other time of day or night for that matter.You aren't her daddy your are her hubby you can't let her do anything.You need to chill out or your going to have a lot of marriage problem if you don't already have them.You should be supportive of your wife and try to get her to be independent.If you are truly worried and not just being a butt head.Than send her to self defense classes or by her a small hand gun that is easy for her to carry with her.Do something constructive with you time and not just sit around trying to single handily push woman kind back a half an century or more.
2006-12-16 13:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My husband is a very protective fella but he also respects my judgement around safety.
I think it might depend on where one lives too. If you lived in a nasty third world city core you might not want your wife out on her own at night... might not want to go out yourself at night either. I live on an island in a neighborhood where pretty much everyone knows everyone. I drive in to the larger center for ToastMasters once a week at night and then usually stop to buy some groceries on my way home from there. People seem friendly and I feel safe. My husband has provided me with a cell phone and an Automobile Association membership. We've been in a long-time trusting marriage relationship (36 years). These are our criteria for my going out at night.
You might want to ask yourself what your criteria is and why?
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2006-12-16 13:18:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real? She is your wife, not your child. She has the right to go anywhere, anytime she wishes. Sounds as if she has married some control freak with no trust. You need to seek some professional help and fast or she is going to leave after dark one night and never come back and it would be what you deserve.
2006-12-16 13:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by Sally B 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband works the evening shift and his dinner break is at 8 PM. It's dark at that time, and I bring his dinner to him almost every night all by myself. My "male relative escorts" all live a little far away to share dinner with us every night, so I guess he's just gonna have to trust me if he wants me to feed him.
2006-12-16 14:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its common here in the USA, I assume other countries may not allow that, but here women are taught that no one takes care of them better than themselves.Some women choose not to marry. Of course it would be great to have our Husbands to go with and spend time with us but it isnt always possible, yet life continues on and we still have things to do. I do think it is sweet to care for your wife that way but not necessary and a litlle over protective.God Bless
2006-12-16 13:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by cristy p 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Allowed"? I am in a Christian marriage. If my husband were concerned for my safety he would say so but he would not "forbid" me to go out after dark alone.
I am an adult, not a child. He does protect me but we decide together who needs what kind of protection and when.
Sounds like you just want control.
2006-12-16 14:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reality i can do whatever i want, but if it is dark he doesn't like me to go out at night by myself not because he is controlling but because he doesn't want anything bad to happen to me. So when i do go out at night by myself i always call him to when i leave places and arrive at places to let him know i am ok. I do that cause i know it just worries him that im out and about by myself in the dark. I don't think it's a big deal because i know it's not him trying to control me.
2006-12-16 13:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by KT 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I go for coffeee with male friends I have knwn for years (and I havent ever had sex with them either) usually when I go its like at 1am in the morning, cause all of them work graves. My bf hates it, but tough ****, I have known these guys alot longer than him and they will most likeley be around lot longer than him. Oh, man, we have fights about this when ever I want to go, cause he is an insecure loser who thinks all women are whores.
I am a grown women I will do as I want.
2006-12-16 13:25:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋