My partner broke up with me 3 weeks ago, citing 'different expectations'. We have been together for 2 years, living together for 1. Since he broke up with me he has been in contact every day, or every other day, either by phone, dropping round, email etc etc. Why is he doing this? It is usual to leave someone alone once you have broken up, isn't it? It's not related to the house, or moving stuff out etc.
He's been drunk every night since and by all accounts is having a hard time with this. What does it mean? I'm so terribly confused. So is my 5 year old daughter.
Not only that, but he is staying with a friend of MINE who I work with. It's all quite bizarre. Guys - help me out here, why does he continue to contact me, even though I have NEVER once called him etc during this, and have even asked TWICE for some space.
2006-12-16 13:03:11 · 7 answers · asked by iliketorideigohago 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all your answers.
She isn't his daughter.
Could he be calling etc, all the time as a patronising way to 'check to see how I'm holding up', so to speak? Would you guys care after you broke up with someone how she was doing?
2006-12-16 13:24:17 · update #1
There is something he wants to tell you, but wants the dramatics to be worthy of the news he has. He probably cheated on you. But, it could be something as ridiculous as he lost his job. You have to remember we guys are not at the same maturity level as women of the same age. If you want him to stop seeing you then you will have to break up with him. I know he's already done this on paper so to say, but, you are going to have to show him how it's done. Then again if you want to work it out but, don't know if his problem is worthy of your efforts, just sit him down once he "again" shows up, and tell him to tell you what the problem is. Hopefully he will think enough time has passed to justify his dramatics!
2006-12-16 13:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's uncomplicated that he's not up for it, being a cushty guy and all. He of course has some kind of sexual urge for nutrition for porn although which isn't healthful at the same time as he would have the authentic element with you yet chooses now to not. Has it continually been like this? because if that is a drastic replace from the way issues were on the start, and if he's not depressed, then that is a chance there is a few different person. are you able to positioned a undercover agent gadget on your computing gadget? dishonest isn't some thing he would come out and admit to.
2016-11-30 20:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the grass wasn't greener on the other side of the fence. I would stop answering his calls for a while. If your daughter is also his you will have to answer to let him speak with her or let him know how she is, but if not let him sit for a while, don't answer every call, email, or door. Let him figure out what those different expectations are and in a while, if you are still available then you decide when you are ready to let him back in. If you want. Otherwise, you are going to have to deal with opening and closing the door to this relationship for quite some time. My thought is once you are in the door, if I have to ask you to leave or you leave, it is going to be hard to get back in the door. Grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence.
2006-12-16 13:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from him. He wants you to feel bad and take him back. It's a classic ploy by losers.
Basically he's been with you for so long he doesn't know how to function as an individual anymore. He needs to leave you alone for his own good, so he can reconnect with himself. The best thing you can do for everyone is avoid him entirely and absolutely.
2006-12-17 22:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by splurkles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably realized he made a mistake,or he is trying to rekindle something for you,in some way justifying that his actions were wrong. He kind of sounds unstable,and continue to ask for space. Don't confuse yourself or your child any longer.
2006-12-16 13:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not sure he made the right decision, and is waiting on u to tell him something. he broke it off with u, but really just wants to work it out but is too embarrassed to say he may have made a mistake.
2006-12-16 13:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cause he's a loser.
2006-12-16 13:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by reaganontherock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋