Hello. Well, I just wanted to say that I've been feeling very down lately...I am a senior in college, and I feel as though I have no right to be complaining. I attend a good school and have had a relatively easy time throughout my time here. Classes have certainly been challenging, but I've never had to work 2 jobs to pay for school or been the object of severe hatred. Yet I feel like I have maybe one friend, my social life has been pretty pitiful, I have not done really well in my major or most of my classes. I'm frustrated that I don't have a passion that I want to address when I graduate. Basically, I feel like it's all been a very blah experience,and I'm no closer to understanding what I want to do with my life than when I entered. For a while now I've been extremely apathetic about school and meeting new people...I just want to leave all this behind. I feel incredibly lonely and feel like I have no direction. Has anyone been in a similar situation?
2006-12-16 12:52:01 · 8 answers · asked by toobland22 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Naw, Im only in High School.
2006-12-16 12:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by Huh! 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Whelp. You should have been doing this 4 years ago but you need to start thinking about a career. Go research reasonably paying careers for yourself and make sure you leave school with the correct diploma that gets you into an entry level job for it. Then, start looking for someone to recruit you into an entry level job (many schools have a department that aids you with this).
For example. It's very common for people to major in business administration with the goal of being a mid level manager and hopefully a higher level executive in a company one day. They get their BA and then get a job as a clerk (this is the term used for an entry level business job). About once every 6 months, they apply for a different job based on their experience with the goal of a 5% to 10% raise each time. Then, at around $35,000 to $45,000 a year income, they start to hit a glass ceiling. They go back to school and get their MBA and then enter higher level management positions. There are similar career paths for engineers.
That other stuff is mostly bullshit. And I'll tell you right now what the real issue is. You need a woman. So, stop hanging around with your loser friends who you will never see again after graduation and for God's sake, stop playing video games, smoking weed and drinking every weekend and go out and meets some womens. A girlfriend will make you wonder what the hell you were so mopey about before. Just don't go overboard. Most women do a "pretend marriage" while they are in college. They are pushy and move in with you. But a few years later, they are just gone. It's not a big deal (unless you get her pregnant....doh).
2006-12-16 13:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think everyone has a "midlife crisis" while in college. Rough it out and finish your degree. The dilemma you are facing, is that when you open you mind and learn how to think and see the world, you understand how complex the world is. Where I went to college in California, the student union had a lot of outdoor adventure activities that were fairly cheap. It was a great way to meet people, and was on the weekend so it wouldn't interfere with your studies.
or if you want to meet some people and totally change your outlook on the world, take some sort of young group tour, like Contiki. I've taken two of their trips right after I finished college. I had a blast and made a lot of friends.
Best of luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-16 13:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by cleanguy4cleanfun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a diffrence between job, degree, and career.
your job is what you do to make money
your degree is what you get from college or study for
your career is what you actually do for a living and know about.
I plan to have a career in art/acting when I graduate. I would much rather be doing something in televsion, maybe writing or movies.
Im studying something in the math/science field. Thats what my degree will be in . My job will probably be in the math/science field, but I will also be pursuing writing /arts on the side.
basically, just because you have a degree is something, doesnt mean you will be pursing that something in your life. Here, read this
"The power of focus for college students"
les hewitt
andrew hewitt
luke d'abadie.
just read it.....
2006-12-17 02:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that you feel that way. You are right, college life will alienate you from what you wanted or used to be doing that enjoy before. I felt that way for two years but channeled my directions in finding something I like doing that I can take in college as electives. I found Photography and love it! I found Art, and I found music. But the most enjoying experience for me is Photography.
2006-12-16 13:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by trykindness 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but only till my friend pulled me up and told me it was high time that I decided what I want in life. So, I took some aptitude test so that I could know which way my interests lie, I found my interest and never looked back.
2006-12-16 12:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I had felt incredibly lonely and I did felt like I had no direction.
2006-12-16 12:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand cause im in the same situation as u so i kno it can be hard but ull be okay jus take it easy and keep ur head n saty focus!!!1
2006-12-16 13:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by daat_lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋