Okay, so I knew that my boyfriend tried weed a few months ago. It was stupid and he admitted it and I asked him never to do it again. It conflicts with my morals, is illegal, not to mention a waste of time and money!! So he said that he wouldn't and that he hasn't. Well, he wanted me to change some of the stuff on his myspace and I ran across a message he sent someone saying he gets drunk/high everynight!! First off, I know this is not true! But secondly, I was worried that he may be smoking pot and not telling me!!! We have been dating fo about a year and this would be a serious deal breaker to me... I dont know what to do. A part of me thinks he was just trying to seem "big and bad" to the guy he was talking to, but I just can't help but freak at the idea that I could be in love with a POTHEAD!!!
2006-12-16 11:58:42 · 15 answers · asked by Fussy Duckling 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this is serious. you really need to confront him about this. drugs and drinking can cause seriously bad things to happen to your relationship. you need to set things straight. ask him to tell you the truth and if he say he has been getting high even not that much then tell him to pick you or the drugs. thats his choice. you don't deserve to be lied to over drugs. get this squared away as soon as posible.
Good Luck!
2006-12-16 12:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by apolloK♫ 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you've been seeing him for a year? Well, if he is smoking pot regularly you will definately see a difference in his character. He'll not want to do as much as he used to, he'll have mood swings and he'll be a little more paranoid. I used to smoke a lot of pot up until about a year ago; and the difference in how I feel and act now is amazing! honestly! I used to think pot was ok, but its not! If you really love him, just talk to him and ask him straight up. If he loves you, he should have no problem stopping.
I hope it works out for you and good luck!!
2006-12-16 12:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by stelalief 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he smoked weed before he met you, chances are you won't be able to change his ways, even if they go against what you believe in.
This is a touchy subject.
You can't force someone to change if they don't want to.
I would hope he wouldn't go behind your back and lie to you about smoking but if that's the case, you have two options:
A)Let him continue the habit.
B)Leave him for someone who's morals are similar to yours.
Good luck.
I've been in this situation before.
2006-12-16 12:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it conflicts with your morals, talk to him. Bear in mind however that what he does is really none of your business. You're not married, and he's a big boy who has to accept responsibility himself.
Sounds as if he's trying to be a little braggy to his friends...no problem..
TALK TO HIM. GET HIS SIDE OF THE STORY. IF you find that he IS smoking, break up with him. IF NOT, tell him you're SORRY and move on.
2006-12-16 12:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Sorry about this, but it really sounds to me like he is a liar no matter what the truth is here, either he lied to you, or he is lying to "impress" others.
It doesn't even matter if you talk to him about it or not because deep in your heart you will always wonder, and that does not make for a healthy relationship.
Good luck!!
2006-12-16 12:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by slpkwp 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my parner smokes weed and has done since i met him 10yrs ago i dont mind it at all he is a fantastic dad and boyfreind he has always worked and now he owns his own buisnes he is realy brainie and it doesnt affect him badly at all even though i wouldnt smoke it i dont mind him but not in the house or infront of our kids there is worser drugs out there that do some harm but weed isnt one of them
2006-12-16 12:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by ema 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
move on and find someone that's drug-free. don't pay to be with someone you don't trust. and, it's not worth risking getting in trouble behind either. if he ever got caught with it and your with him -- you'll be in trouble too just for being with him. it's called: guilty by association. even if you don't do that -- by being associated with him knowing there's a chance he's doing it (again) - you will be looked at as doing the same thing he is. think about it like this.........if you hung out with a bunch of hoes --- you mine as well be one yourself. he's still doing it - weed is addictive sweety. move on - you deserve better.
2006-12-16 12:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by dip_n_cecilia 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask him to take a THC urine test. They're cheap ($7) and easily available at any pharmacy. If it comes up clean, you'd better be ready to apologize for not trusting him.
2006-12-16 12:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have this extreme reaction at this stage in your relationship then your boyfriend should kick you to the curb without delay.
2006-12-18 06:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by Cliff Schaffer 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ya my bf does 2 I hate it but he's trying 2 stop. My email is amanda_plotczyk@yahoo.com. Email me sumtime. I agree with u. Tell him how u feel.
2006-12-16 12:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋