My husband and I have been married for almost two years we were together for four years before we said I DO. Our life went from pretty fun to totally boring ever since we got married why does this happen and what can I do to help us have fun again?
2006-12-16 11:49:41 · 13 answers · asked by Selly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Communication is the key in all marriages.Talk with him and together, make your marriage a truly paradise.Ask him how your marriage can be better.Also you can get more information about happy marriages or guides for marriages at the Internet;or at the library.Good luck.
2006-12-16 11:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from like experience--somewhere along the line the two you made unconscious choices that were logical, rational, and pragmatic. Society endorses these choices as a cruel life sentence of unfulfilled dreams and passionless couples. These choices did not address your passions, your true wants, your dreams nor the court, spark and flame that lit the fire of your love. I lost my identity as man to be a husband and my ex lost her identity as a woman to be a wife. I went on a quest to reclaim it. She was not invited.
That's what happened to me and maybe you can identify with it and maybe not. In as much as I do not regret the path that I took, I do not recommend it either. Marriage is a wonderful insrirurion provided that you make the right choice.
You want to have fun again? I am so sorry that I do not have an answer for you. This forum is much too small to discuss my ideas, suggestions or experiences.
2006-12-16 22:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you did for fun before. Is it the same thing you do know. If it is then something went wrong. Have you went through a change that might make you think differently about your husband. Something at work or at home. There might be some outside influence that is affecting you marriage.
2006-12-16 19:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by MB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two are settling down or getting comfortable with each other. You can do alot of things to spice up your relationship or you will eventually grow apart. Try for one weekend to be his TOTAL sex slave and not ask him for anything except if you can do more for him. Put your ego aside and try it , if it doesn't work then at least you tried.
2006-12-16 20:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard the saying ~ "familiarity breeds contempt"?
Well, marriage (and other familiar relationships) does that. In all relationships, especially marriage, you have to work hard to keep that spark alive.
Use your imagination to have fun again like you used to. Sometimes, the simplest things makes us happy!
2006-12-16 20:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by doggoneit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know, we're having more fun now, 2 kids and 14 years later.
2006-12-16 20:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by chilly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go on a date once a month find somthing fun to do together once a weekend it will bring some fun into it make time for each other
2006-12-16 20:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's the ring syndrome, gone are the spontaneous decisions replaced with the planning, kids, life etc, so go back to the way you guys were when you lived together, and spice things up, suprise him with new stuff like dress ups and role-playing. Do stuff you used to do, be a bit adventorous and stop bossing him around the place and tell him to pull his weight.
2006-12-16 19:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by curlyhurlymo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spontenaety is pretty good stuff, on a whim do something crazy, keep him guessing, dont let the bond get in a rut.
2006-12-16 19:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by Skeeter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you've gotten into the routine of every day life, do something to shake things up, have a date night with wild sex
2006-12-16 20:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋