the girl has two daughters of 7 and 5 yrs , she wants me to accpet one daughter , I ahve been married twice , first marriage ended in suicide and second one in divorce , I Like the girl very much but parents are rigid regarding the issue factor , they are adamant that I should marry issueless lady , i am emotionally attached to female and know the female for almost last two months. we have met twice , and talked also on various issues , she is interested only in case my parents agree , her parents are agreed , the age difference is also around 6 yrs between both of us
2006-12-16 11:46:16 · 8 answers · asked by sunj_bhalla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you ready, why you are waiting?
2006-12-16 11:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by keral 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not a case of convincing parents of both sides.
You have to make it clear why she wants to accept one daughter and not her two daughters? Who will take care of another child? Whether she is having her own financial stability to look after one daughter. If so, she means that you have to take care of her one daughter by accepting her. She is interested to marry you only because of her children not for you. This happens with all mothers whether they are divorcees or widows. All mothers are fond of their children and they are not interested in anybody including their mates, when it comes to their children. When such is the case, this girl is too thinking about her self (selfishness) and her children only. This happens because everybody is selfish in this world and living an unrealistic life.
To tell you frankly, you are thinking about unavailable sex rather than that divorcee girl and her children. You should be capable of taking care of your self and then the divorcee and her children. She wants a man with financial stability, if she is not financially independent. If she is financially well placed, she never cares anybody.
This is fact man and be prepared for all the unseen consequences. That is it.
2006-12-16 13:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't u accept both of them ... see if she accepts u after 2 marriages ... why not u accept her fully with watever belongs to her or else u will be left with her physical and mentally she will be with her kids...
abt ur parents issue they doubt ur character man ... with ur first wife sucide and second going for a divorce shows something is definitely wrong man ... so prove urself
2006-12-16 14:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can not tell you to marry her or go on the relaition when i dont know what were the reasons were there when your first wife did suicide and the other one got a divorce . sorry man
2006-12-16 15:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by gunchu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are both old enough to make your own decisions. You, I hope, will outlive your parents so you must make your own way in life, right or wrong. If you really love her, then be with her no matter what.
2006-12-16 11:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by rockandrollrev 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 09:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does she want you to accept just one daughter??
and two months is very little time to marry someone with kids(is she desperate?)
take more time to think about it
2006-12-16 12:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what makes you happy but make sure you can accept her kids if not step her kids should always be first
2006-12-16 12:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋