Im deeply in love with my exboyfriend. we broke up a month ago, but we're still talking and hanging out. We act as if we were still together. Sometimes he's sweet and nice, but most of the time he's indifferent and cold with me. He has told me that he loves me back and that there is no one in the world as important as me.
2006-12-16 11:35:52 · 19 answers · asked by Elo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I personally wouldn't be hanging out with my ex that I am still in love with, because your broken heart will never heal! Just start to try to ease away from him and begin to hang out more by yourself, you know, some you time! And if you must hang with someone, hang out with some of your best girl friends or family.
2006-12-16 11:44:30 · answer #1 · answered by tawannajones2217@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broken up means you are not together anymore - it does not mean keep the same relationship going, but give it a different word. The key word here is "ACT"; is your relationship just an act at this point. No one has entered his life to take his mind off you and you are not allowing (most likely) anyone to enter your life to replace him (look around, there are more than a few guys waiting to help put your heart back together if you them). The indifference and cold will is to push you away without revealing the truth whatever it mat be. Guys tend not to be honest because they don't want to "crush" a girl. As soon as he finds someone new he won't have time for you but will always be back because he feels has the upper hand in the relationship. Every failed relationship in the future will lead him back to you whether it failed because of him or the new girl. You're at the front of the line to the relationship roller-coaster.
2006-12-16 19:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broken hearts do mend but you need is your space and time to heal. From what you said, " Sometimes he's sweet and nice, but most of the time he's indifferent and cold with me." speaks loud and clear where his intentions reside.
Try to find other friends to hang out with so you have space to yourself.
Be patient, it's a moment by moment occurence. Before you know it those moments go by and fill a day,, days go by and fill a week, weeks turn into a month and months into a year. My point is we have no control over the passage of time. It does get better but only with time and taking care of yourself first.
2006-12-16 19:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by danielromero60 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've always thought breakups happen for a reason. If you want to get over him then the best thing (although perhaps not the easiest) is to put time and space inbetween you two. His actions are showing he is confused so let him be. If you two are meant to be then you will meet up when the time is right.
For now, spend time with friends and family. Try not to dwell on it. I'm sure all the advice you will recieve is easier said then done. Hang in there.
Best,
Burton
2006-12-16 19:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by Facing Fate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you reading him as indifferent and cold when he is simply concentrating on something other than you? I would take him at his word and try to calm down. There is a cure for a broken heart - a little time - you will wonder what all the fuss was about.
2006-12-16 19:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by deepthroat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not being truthful with you. Maybe he really does love you, but he's not treating you with respect. You need to give him some distance and see if there's really anything to build on. I treated my wife like that earlier in my marriage and learned the hard way that a person can only take that kind of treatment so long before it affects how they feel about you. So you can either realize that he's not treating you right now or you can wait until you grow out of love with him.
2006-12-16 19:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by MB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think y'all need some time and space apart. He maybe leading you on by holding onto you until he find someone else. Whats going happen is that he's really going to hurt you when he moves on and you're thinking that y'all are a couple. JMO
Also, communicate with him to find out what's between the two of you.
2006-12-16 20:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as for me if the person break up with me i won't be able to accepted to be my friend coz he/she was your lover before and now it just only friend? i don't think so. take this note if someone break your heart you rather forget him than to be your friend coz is hard to forget all those special days when you are together. so if you wanna forget him and ready to move on you need to stop seeing him. or give some break not to see him for a while and let your mind cleared. ok hope that i give you some good advice.
2006-12-16 20:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by luvu4ever14344 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a really tough one hun, because it all about emotions. I think it would be differcult for anyone! But try to not beat yourself up about it because thats self destructive. Give yourself time, i thinks its true to say time is a great healer!
Also a change of scenery can be a good thing, try to get your mind on other things for abit.
2006-12-16 19:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awwwww.....I'm sorry....If he broke your heart then you don't need a man like that....Find a new one....Im very sorry for you...Hey don't feel bad...My man broke up with me today.....But I felt better becuz he was not the one....He wasn't my type....Just listen to a smoothing song like Irreplaceable or something you like that makes you feel good....Then take a warm bath....drink a tekeelah or smirinoff and then just go to sleep...then the next day go to a bar or something and flirt or put on some cute clothes and go somewhere and find you a man ohhh...And I got a new man already....But yeah just try to relax....If he wanna break up and you haven't been with him for a long time then he is not the man for you......Get a man that exepts you for who you are....He should not be liking you just becuz you wear cute clothes or have long or short hair or becuz you are thick, fat, or skinny...He should date you for who you are.....Your not supposed to date just becuz of his looks....or her smile....Its supposed to go by personality not just looks...Becuz he might be az mean az hell and talk stupid stuff behind your back than suspect nothing is wrong....Just date a person you like not just becuz they are cute....Becuz you like them for who they are.....dont eva let a man do you wrong....Don't let them treat you like dog dodoo.....And don't treat him like dog dodoo.....and if he did love you , then why did ya'll break up????..... think about that......and just get a man you like........Okay?????
2006-12-16 19:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by â?¥Mz. Flyeâ?¥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋