how does one stop obsesssing and get their mind off an incident with an awful person or a bad situation.?

Question

I am feeling constantly angry, sad, worried, fearful, etc due to things going on in my life and need help getting my mind off these worries and negative feelings and rotten people lately...I feel like i'm cracking up with all these negative feelings...how can I not think like this and get it all out of my mind and stop dwelling on recent things.

By nature I am highly sensitive, have an over developed sense of unfairness and injustice, am a chronic worrier, too nice, too open and too emotional. I feel these things re driving me crazy and my tendencies are starting to wreck my life and worried I'll ruin my health. Please offer serious advice.. (and don't just see see a doctor as I have one and decided I will no olonger take medical drugs for depression and so forth. Thank you..

yes, Mary, that does help you and the people you are helping..good suggestion.

eddie..that's true one needs aweareess and a commitment to oneself to stop and not let them occupy one's mind so much..distraction might help. you are totally right I realized a while back I wasted so much of my life being miserable and worrying and most of the bad stuff you worry about never happens. Life is really a lot shorter than we realize and yet we get in these habitual patterns and don't realize how much of our lives is slipping away and wasting away. You are so right.

yes, forgiveness is healing but sometimes takes a while to get to that point..it isn't easy to do, but eventually I generally do.

thank you, JT..yes, I do identify with your sister and feel I suffer from multiple mental disorders like diagnosed clinical depression but also high anxiety and obsessive tendency and things...I guess I forget how these things can be chemical and how they ruin our lives and waste them..thanks,

hi funky--well it is not that I don't feel it i a chemical and neurotransmitter imbalance, inherited in part, exacrbate by the environmental problems of life and air, water, food, stress, etc it's that I tried 14 antidepressants none worked and they altered my personality..I will never really be the person I once was and they are dangerous. I have barely taken a few aspirins in 20 years no OTCD's and rarely takes prescriptions. I am a beliver in alternative health and herbs though. I just forget to take stuff that might help or can't afford it. I have researched this stuff and had personal problems with medical rugs..I think they are unsafe so I do appreciate the sugestions.

docjnt..wow I was very impressed with your answers. I like that approach and I am very into alternative health and the healing things in nature..I find it interesting that you can rebuild your aura this way...ve ry interesting and great answer.

Vivian..if I do something to them, I truly do it with no awareness,

Vivian..if I do something to them, I truly do it with no awareness,

Answer 1

1. Approach scientifically your problem.
2. Problem Identification: Obsession with........
3. Break them into elements....in this case...i) incident with awful person ii) x said this iii) my reaction was iv) unable to get over the incident.
4. Possible alternatives to overcome.....a) stop thinking on meeting by way of listening to music a totallly different subject.
b) meet friends who have same frequency and share your thoughts to release the pent up feelings
c) Concentration on meditation
d) social service where help is needed
e) venting your anger and expressing it by way of a letter to the person concerned.
f) sharing your views with elderly people in the home
5. Choose from the alternative and implement
6. Analyse results.
It is not that anyone does not follows these steps while reacting to a situation. But the logical steps should be followed and made as a habit, so everytime you take a decision on these lines, your perception of society and your own reaction to them improves.
Slow and steady wins the race.
VR

Answer 2

I have a number of those incidents behind me, particularly the one that draws the core of my PTSD. Firstly, I chose to handle it poorly, via trying to drink the thoughts away, which, in turn, only made them worse. I did seek help and talk the incident/s over with my psychiatrist, who helped me greatly in moving past that stuff, and I think it really does help to talk the incident over with any person(s) you trust. Depending on how severely the memories are effecting your life and daily routines, managing them could require as little as a couple weeks in a relaxing and stress-free environment to as much as counseling or therapy. If this incident has occurred recently and was not something you'd consider extremely traumatic, a few days to a couple of weeks in an environment where you can relax and participate in hobbies you enjoy to help keep your mind busy should help a lot. If this is something that occurred further in the past and is still effecting you to unmanageable levels, or if you find the memories of this incident are still disturbing you over a month later, you may want to consult a therapist or psychologist to help you out. While I have no idea if this would work for you, it always helped me to read books or watch movies/TV that featured people who had undergone a similar incident overcoming it. Good luck, and whatever decision you make, hope everything works out for you.

Answer 3

It's unfortunate that you feel you need to go off your meds. I would suggest that you seek a different doctor as allot of this can be hormonal and through the chemistry in the brain. Sometimes not though and you feel that is the case...

And so... If you want to lick this without meds I would suggest:
Yoga classes and practice it religiously.
Martial arts where you can beat the crap out of stuff.
Religion where you may meet other people who are kinder.
A time occupying hobby where you are able to put all of your mind into it when you need to get away (I do wood working)

Hope this helps a little and good luck.

Answer 4

Try telling yourself what you want to hear from your happier inner self over and over. Side step worry by fortifying yourself with fresh fruit and positive words to think while you eat. Drink only water for a while to symbolize "refreshment for cleansing thoughts." Remind yourself that you're a good person while you bathe and take care of yourself. All these things are a part of good mental conditioning and will help replace misguided thoughts. Eventually, you'll build your inner aura until you feel well balanced. Then, you can consider your troubles but not worry about them and feed yourself positive mental and physical health.

Answer 5

It sounds like you are on emotional overload. My sister is just like you, and says that her worries, anger and fear are always on her mind. She can't sleep because her mind is always racing with negative thoughts. She lives in constant stress because of these emotions.

She found out she has a really bad anxiety disorder. I am not saying you should see a doctor, I am just saying this is something to look into. You might have a chemical imbalance in your brain that causes the emotions like fear, worry, sadness, and anger to go on overdrive.

I'm sorry you are feeling this way.

Answer 6

These feelings of constant anger and anxiety will color your judgment on issues,and in time may damage your health ,However as hard as it maybe try to get away for a few days on your own if you can ...time to reevaluate things, situations ,people, events ,
You say some people are "rotten",are you able to ask yourself... have you done something to make them treat you this way?maybe not I don't know ..could be that this time away will sort this out too....

Answer 7

You are like me.

Every time I start thinking that way I remind myself to "stop. Let it go".

The concept of a no win situation is somehting you have to embrace.

You really should get counseling as you are wasting your life with this.

Answer 8

You should do things to keep what ever is on your mind off your mind. You should get a job if you don't already or volunteer to keep yourself busy.

Answer 9

By doing kind deeds for others. Keep yourself busy. volunteer for a charitable cause for the holidays.

Answer 10

The first step is forgiveness.

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