If a person is born a homosexual. Are they born that way or do they choose to be that way????

Question

My friends and I r ahaving an argument so please help.

Answer 1

Personally I think that they are BORN that way (I believe I was). I don't believe you can "choose" to be homosexual. Who would choose to be hated and harassed when they could go without all that hatred?

And for those "straight" guys who "turn gay"... they never really turned gay... they just never really knew their own sexuality.

Edit:

To "Lion of Judah"

That doesn't show that it's a choice... that shows that people don't recognize their true selves until a mature enough age.

Answer 2

I know I was born that way. I've known since I was 6 that I liked both girls and boys. I didn't make a concious decision to like girls. We were playing tag where the girls capture the boys and the boys capture the girls, and I noticed that what I really wanted to do was capture the girls! :) Back then I didn't even know that people could like the same sex, I just noticed that I did, said "hm, thats interesting" and continued playing tag.

There are many people who don't feel an attraction to the same sex until much later in life. Now I'm kind of biased since I've always known, so I usually think that it's because they didn't want to acknowledge it so they buried it even from themselves. Other people say sexuality is fluid so they gradually became gay.

But either way I don't think there's a choice involved. Who would suddenly make the choice to be gay, when you know that it sets you up for a lifetime of hardship?

BTW- I'm in the mental health field. I've read many research articles on this, and there have never been any legitimate studies done that "prove" what causes homosexuality or whether it happens before or after birth.

It also has nothing to do with bonding or failure to bond with the same sex parental figure. I was the golden child in my mother's eye and we were very close. But I still love the women! :)

Answer 3

inspite of if someone is both with the organic skills and inclination to be a thief, they nonetheless have the alternative to act on that urge or no longer. they are punished for the act, no longer the urge. Homosexuals likewise will be "born" gay (even with the very undeniable truth that this would also strengthen later in life), yet they favor to act on it, only as heterosexuals choose at the same time as and how they prefer to be sexually energetic. The upshot is that each human being is to blame for his or her moves, no remember what their tendencies. So if you're going to condemn homosexuals, base your arguments on their moves, no longer their inherent nature. so a ways, you've not submitted any argument about why gay sexual sex is inaccurate... and there fairly is not any purpose argument that it really is inaccurate.

Answer 4

I was born without a gender preference at all. Even as a child, i remember imagining what would happen if I fell in love with a girl. I ended up marrying a guy, but that was just the way the dice fell, and had nothing to do with "choosing" to be straight. I have never thought of myself as straight. As someone else said, you don't choose your sexual identity, you just choose when to acknowledge it.

Answer 5

Look at ur question:

If a person is born a homosexual. (this being a statement) Are they born that way or do they choose to be that way???? (this being a question following the statement)

If they are born gay, yeah they're born that way [since no one chooses to be born, at all].

Answer 6

We are born this way. As far as I know I didn't decide one day to wake up and say "Gee I feel like turning gay from now on." It doesn't work that way. Do straight people choose to be straight? or are they jusr born that way? See how the question could work both ways? As far as I know.

Some people say that no one is born gay but circumstances lead them to be gay. But as far as I know. I was not molested by any one. I was raised in a non-dysfunctional family with loving parents. And to be truth I didn't even knew the word gay till I turned 15. But even before then I can remember myself thinking about other boys and crushing on them. It is like the day I realized what the word meant, my life actually made sense. So to say one chooses to be gay, in my opinion is false. One only chooses when to accept themselves but not choose to be gay.

Isn't it ironic how the people who have no idea what it means to be gay say that it is choice? When logically it would be a bad choice to make, since we live in a very intolerant society. Why would any one choose to be a second class citizen any way?

Answer 7

Every study ever done reveals that homosexual behavior is acquired, not born. In most cases it seems to have more to do with lack of bonding with the same sex parent. It would actually be possible to raise a child to have a better than 50/50 chance of being gay. The fact is, there is no such thing as a gay person, only homosexual thoughts and behavior. Its like saying an adulterer was born that way. While they may not have chosen to have the attractions they have, they can choose to get help out of the lifestyle. Exodus International has helped thousands of ex-gays lead normal lifestyles.

Answer 8

i think the foundation that we build our life upon are made up of a combination of biological characteristics, and the nurturing we receive as a child aged 0-5.

i am 32 and i have just come to realize i am bi. it's not a choice i made.. it's just a realization of who i am and what my preferences are..

nobody really knows about sex or sexual preference at 0-5, but i think the way we were nurtured, raised, and taught, really shapes the way we look at things and the way we become individuals and form our values. and once we go thru adolescence, teenhood, and early adulthood, we start to realize and discover things about ourselves..

i always liked girls, and still do. but i always seemed to be interested in guys, at least physically. i always dismissed those thoughts as silly curiousity.. but i can't lie to myself anymore.

my values don't change.. i always want friendship before love, and want love before sex.. but i am totally open to the idea that my long term soulmate could potentially be either male or female.

do i choose this or like it to be this way? hell no..

Answer 9

Scientific studies are increasingly coming to the conclusion that gay people are born gay. The only choice is one between self acceptance or self hatred. This is the reason that the suicide rate for gay youth is higher than for straight youth, and many times those who live with self hatred who have married and tried to live a 'straight' life are unhappy and unsuccessful in being 100% straight (i.e. Ted Haggard).

Answer 10

how many more times is this question going to come up.
Do you read any of the previous questions. This has been discussed a hundred times !! What difference does it make? We are who we are. Some people experiment at same sex intimacy but most gay people are born that way. It just takes some of us longer to understand our feelings.