Cheated and Pregnant?

Question

So I got a good one. What would you do if your fiance cheated on you with two women-at the same time-while you were pregnant with his baby? One part of me says, "hey it was only once and you are pregnant, so give him another chance," and the other part says "leave him." I need advice.

Answer 1

Some men go crazy during pregnancy. You can have the nicest most loyal partner in the world, and when it comes down the fatherhood, they might snap and behave in a way they would not ordinarily behave. Is the pressure of fatherhood? Is it the lack of sex? Lack of attention? Lack of domination? Alcohol/Drug abuse? Spur of the moment thing?

What is this man usually like? Is he honest, kind, caring? Were there warning signs that he was a womaniser? If this event didn't take you completely by surprise because of past experience, then it may be time to call it a day.

But then, what of his behaviour now? Is he sorry? Has his behaviour completely devasted him? Did his behaviour disgust even himself? If so, you can see maybe this was a one off and that there is something in him that makes you feel he would never do it again. If he seems a little lazy, insincere etc with his apologies, then I think we all know he is neither mature enough for a serious relationship and definitely not mature enough to stay loyal to you in the long term.

I personally would leave a partner if he cheated on me immediately unless I knew I had behaved a certain way that had influenced it. But your circumstances are a little different. Do you love your partner? Does he truly love you? The future of your child depends on the decision you make. A life with a daddy or a life without a daddy? A life with a dad who cheats and lies and argues with mum- or a life with a step-dad who is devoted to his wife?

I seriously hope this works out okay for you. I hope that he's essentially a good man who made a disgraceful decision, and who will spend the rest of his life making it up to you and your child. Is this true, or do you deep down know differently?

No one needs a partner. A partner should be a pleasurable addition to life. You can do it without him if you have to. Stay strong, keep a clear head and think this one through. Listen to your head on this one, and not your heart.

Maybe it's worth writing down all the good and bad things about this man on a piece of paper and weighing them up side by side to see if you can forgive him for what he has done.

And if you can get through this, then it may be worth getting councilling or if you can do it without arguing- some long, open discussions on why he felt he could and wanted do this to you. Just so you can make peace with yourself over this.

All the best.

Answer 2

Leave him! Single mother's these days are better able to cope than ever with all the support available to them. He wants to have his cake and eat it. He thinks he has you at his mercy now because you're pregnant and that he can do what he likes because you'll probably hold onto him in order to have a father in the baby's life. Wipe the smirk off his face and let him go, show him you don't need him. He'll either beg your forgiveness, and then you'll have him at your mercy, or if he doesn't then he ain't worth a damn!

Answer 3

There is never a good excuse for cheating.A cheater is a cheater.He will do again and again..It is a really poor and ridiculous excuse to cheat the wife,because she is pregnant.If she is pregnant,he need to love and take care of her and her baby,more than before.He only show cheating on her,that he does not love her,and he does not love her baby too.I do not think every man will cheat his wife,because she is pregnant.It is indeed a poor excuse,trying to justify the cheating.

Answer 4

there is not any thank you to understand if it relatively is actual as many affairs are stored inner maximum between husband and spouse. I particularly think of it relatively is hardship-unfastened nonetheless. multiple men freak out whilst their spouse is pregnant and regrettably do finally end up cheating. i think of a million in 3 seems slightly severe.

Answer 5

If your being pregnant didn't stop him cheating he isn't committed to your relationship. Getting out now will save future hurt - he will do it again. It's tough being a single mom but better than having to worry about what your fiance might be doing. I hope he practised safe sex for your sake. Good luck.

Answer 6

I say leave him! Do you really want to risk it happening again! Also is that the kind of guy you want helping raising your kid? I say no! It doesn's matter if it was just once cheating is cheating! and that's all there is to it!

Answer 7

Please think this out very well,no doubt this behavior will continue,
how do you know it was only once?In my opinion a pregnant women is a work of art and deserves 100% of his attention.Just use your wits and go with your heart.You can still be married or engaged and still be a single parent,its no fun.I think there's a need for some extensive conversation.

Answer 8

What difference does it make how many he was with? The fact is, he was unfaithful.

Only you can decide what is your best course of action, but you need to decide if you can forgive and forget or if it will always bother you. If you can't get over it, end the relationship now.

Answer 9

If he did this more then two time already then leave him cuz the baby may not want a father like him. hope this advice will help.

Answer 10

You need to ask yourself if you can trust him. Perhaps you just need a break a vacation with the girls maybe? Bascially clear your head, spend some time away from him and then decided if you can feel comfortable enough to raise your child with him.