My husband and I are expecting a baby in June, and are thinking of names. We have hit a stumbling block however, and need help. Six months ago, I miscarried a baby girl at seven weeks. We had already picked out a name for her - Hayden Cheyenne. My husband would like to use that name for the baby I am carrying now - is that a good idea? It seems to me like its taking something away from the child we lost. Let me know what everyone thinks about this...is it morbid or acceptable?
2006-12-16 10:47:08 · 22 answers · asked by Stephanie S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
maybe u could use the same first name but a different middle name
2006-12-16 10:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very acceptable. @ 7 weeks you were barely viable. However it does not make it any different in your heart and mind. You would have not ever registered the birth. There is no way of even knowing if the child you miscarried was a male or female unless you had DNA after the miscarriage. Your baby was only about a inch and a half long. I know that it is hard for you however it is something the two of you must come to an agreement on. Many people name their children after someone very loved and special to them. I also think that Hayden Cheyenne is a beautiful name. Good Luck with your choice.
2006-12-16 11:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by crazynuns 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you. For your husband, the baby lost might not really seem like a baby lost because he didn't get to see it or feel it or have really anything to do with it yet, considering you probably weren't showing and he couldn't see much on an ultrasound. However, for you it was a very real baby because it was inside you and a womans experience of pregnancy is obviously far different than a mans.
Personally, I think that you should use a different name but that's because I could understand why you'd want to keep that name for your lost baby; there WAS a baby and you shouldn't have to forget that.
2006-12-18 08:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by barbiefreak518 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always transpose the names and name the new baby Cheyenne Hayden. I think that would be a wonderful way to honor and remember the first baby while not using her name exactly.
2006-12-16 10:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by ♥chelley♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is something that you guys are going to have to decide together. i think if it were me i would come up with a different name the baby you are expecting because that way you have a name/memory of the child you lost, but I also don't think that you're morbid if you used the name for the baby you are expecting. it is your guys decision completely, but you need to agree on it--otherwise bitterness could last a long time.
2006-12-16 11:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by Joyous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did you know it was a girl at seven weeks?? I think it is perfectly fine to name the baby you are carrying now the first name you picked out.
2006-12-16 11:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by JS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't use the exact same name. Maybe you could use the middle of first name as a middle name in memory of her. But use a different first name. Although its not true, she might feel like she was a replacement if she has the same name as sister that was lost before her. It's better to give her, her own sense of identity.
2006-12-16 10:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my cousin was going threw the same thing about a year ago she was pg with a little girl and the baby was still born got pg again and wanted to name that baby the same thing i caused a lot of problems with her and her husband i myself think that a child is a needs his or her own name also let that child be its on person pick something from you heart that will be just as special
2006-12-16 11:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by janet s 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Personally I would not name your baby that you are carrying the name you chose for your daughter that passed. Though she did not have a chance to live outside the womb, she was still your daughter in my opinion. That is just my opinion but the decision is really up to you and your husband.
2006-12-16 10:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both need to make this decision together. Try to explain to him how you would feel naming your child the same as the one you miscarried. I wouldn't feel comfortable and to answer your question, find it morbid.
Hope this helps.
2006-12-16 12:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by montanasamra 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋