My husband, son and I have lived in our neighborhood for 7 years, and my son is now 13. We have a close group of neighbors that get together quite often, of which we are a part of. Most of us are young couples with children - but my son is the oldest of the group. My question is this - one neighbor couple are grandparents and have no children at home. They have always hand delivered a doll or toy to the younger children in this group (ranges for the kids are 1 month to 11 years old - minus my 14 year old). I've always given them a gift of some sort and left it on their doorstep. My son was never (I mean, even when he was 7) part of the gift delivery from them. Am I being petty? I think now it is okay that he doesn't get one, now that he is older. But it sometimes hurt his feelings to see them skip our house and deliver to the others when he was young. It bothered me and still does. Am I being petty?
2006-12-16 10:41:39 · 16 answers · asked by itsjustfoolishness 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
No. That IS interesting. I can't figure out why they would do that either.
That's really odd. If you are close enough to anyone in the group, you might mention to them how curious that is. Ask them if they have heard anything about why that might be.
Ask if they think your son might have done something to be singled out.
Mention, ofcourse that you aren't mad and in no way trying to get gifts for him but that you just are curious as heck.
If they know anything, I'm sure they will tell you.
Good Luck. That IS weird!
2006-12-16 10:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am going to go against the tide here.
Yes, you are being petty. And you are dwelling on the past. What was done may have been wrong, but the time to take care of it was when this first happened. By bringing it up now, 6 years after the fact, is just plain petty.
Sorry, but The time for action was 6 years ago...imho
2006-12-16 12:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by istitch2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the first year they skipped my child, and gave to all of the others, I would have re-considered giving to them. hurting my child in any way matters more to me than being "accepted" by my neighbors. at the very least, I would have asked the older couple, what gives. petty? I don't think so. skipping your house to get to the other houses, to give something to the other children? what could your son have thought? his heart must have been broken, he may have even wondered why they did not like him. children tend to blame themselves when things seem "out of synct." this should have been something that was straightened out long ago by both you and your husband "the adults."
2006-12-16 10:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by amber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ur not! and i really think u should go to them, tell them how u feel, if not then give them one more gift, but let ur son take it to them as if it came from him, tell them my son had to get u guys something because u really doesn't know he's around so now that he's a little older he still were and still is a kid in the Neighborhood!!!
2006-12-16 10:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you are being petty. If it bothers you because you feel your son was hurt by being left out rather than being bothered by your son not getting a gift then I think you have justification. I don't think it should start a community quarrel or anything, but I can certainly understand your feelings on this. I would feel the same way. We all want to be included and accepted. In being left out, we feel unaccepted.
2006-12-16 10:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by tmw36 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ur son certainly has a right to feel left out if every other child gets a present and he doesn't. Does any one know why?
and i certainly think u have a right to b miffed about it and i personally wouldn't have given these people a present after the 1st year they snubbed my child. and i don't think u should ever give them a present again and i don't think that is being petty. It seems to me that u were very generous for years and it is time to give up and forget these people all together.
good luck and merry xmas.
2006-12-16 10:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by Nora G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you're being a mother. It's so hard watching your children's feelings being hurt. I know from experience also. You feel crushed for him. Let him be the adult about it. Maybe leave a little present of some kind for them from him? Maybe they will think about it. Actually that's all you're wanting isn't it? A little bit of recognition for your son? As for me, I would have thrown an egg at their house a long time ago. Just kidding...I think. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-16 10:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your beong petty, becasue you've always included them! But if they just skip over you it's them being rude!You have done nothing wrong. And just becasue you think it's not fair that after all these years they never gave your son a gift doesn't mean that your petty! I would think the same thing if it happened to me!
2006-12-16 10:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by hippie_at_heart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being petty. I find it pretty disturbing myself. I can understand why and how this would hurt your sons feelings and yours also. Wow, I wonder why and what would make them think this is ok. They should have at least gotten him a gift certificate if they did not know what to purchase for him. This is really very sad on their part. God forgive them, they obviously do not know any better. God bless****
2006-12-16 10:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No you are not being Petty. I think that your son should deliver thier gift and tell him to kill them with kindness.
2006-12-16 11:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by Deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋