She is 14.
I've booked her, an appointment with, the Gyno. It's very important that she goes.
But she is refusing, as she is scared and embarrassed.
I've told her, what will happen. And that if she wants, i'll be with her.
Hasn't made any difference. !!
Can i force her to go ??. Can't see her going any other way.
very grateful for any advcie on this issue. PLEASE HELP ME.
2006-12-16 10:32:53 · 16 answers · asked by mary p 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Who can blame her? I wouldn't go at that age either. Ask her if she'll go to a woman gyno...or nurse practictioner...it's an unbearabley awful scary thing for someone her age to go through but when push comes to shove she may go to a woman. Have your friends speak to her to...for encouragement.
2006-12-16 10:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't force her to go. That could emotionally traumatise her. You need to have a third party talk to her. Maybe she can just go into talk to the nurse or doctor and not have any kind of physical examination that day, just so they can explain what happens. If she can see a female gyno, I think this may help also, as it will probably be less embarrassing. You shouldn't push the issue though, otherwise she will only refuse even more and become more stressed and scared. HTH : )
2006-12-16 10:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a friendly female gynae first of all. Is there someone else (pref female) your daughter trusts that she can confide it. Read through a book on the subject that is applicable, so your daughter understands the matter - she is probably afraid of the unknown - the important thing is confidence and understanding of the medical professional. Of note too is that your daughter is not alone in this and has support of mum and a caring gynae. They are there to help and not as sterile and instrumental as it may perceive in her mind
2006-12-16 11:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 09:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh geez. My mom forced me to go to one of those a while ago. I was so embarrassed and hated her for making me go. Make sure that this "problem" she has isn't easily identifyable by the symptoms or looks of it. If it is, check it out at home instead of the doctor's office and just get medication. But if it is very, very important that she goes, I guess you have to make her go. I don't recommend it, but you are incharge of her health and safety and if that's what you gotta do to keep her healthy, do it. My condolences to your daughter though.
2006-12-16 11:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
l to have a 14year old girl,l have just been through the same thing,later that night ,l went in to talk to her, about what might happen, we had a good talk and l promised that l would stay with her ,yes she was scared, but l held her hand the whole time. don't puss her, just be there for her.
good luck
2006-12-16 14:00:21 · answer #6 · answered by dean f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is from experience that i know this. you cant force her to go get checked out. but you can make sure its a female Doctor and let her go just to get to know and trust the Doctor. it works a lot better that way trust me i know. another thing that might help is sit down and talk to her tell her about what they are going to do, and just let her know your not going to force her but you would really appreciate it if she would go and at least talk to the doctor.
2006-12-16 11:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by marry r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her about this and reassure her. Find out why she is scared and embarrassed and figure out what you can do to alleviate her fears and help her with her embarrassment. Simply offering to be in the room is not enough.
2006-12-16 10:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to explain to her that it is very important to go and that the doctor will do everything he, she can to make her feel comfortable. Explain to her what can happen if she doesnt go to get checked. good luck!
2006-12-16 10:36:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a woman doctor and keep reassuring her. She might feel more comfortable with a woman doctor and be willing to give it a try.
2006-12-16 10:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff and Kristi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋