Would you rather make a baby or save a baby?

Question

I know that I am going to get some defensive replies to this question, but please know that I don't intend to be rude. The human population has skyrocketed in the last 50 years, and people are still having children. There are so many children in the world who need good homes, food, and an education. Many little girls in China are being sold into slavery or prostitution, and some are even literally thrown away because they are not males. There are children in Ethiopia, Africa, Indonesia, and many other countries that are in desperate need of good parents. This makes me wonder why so many people want to produce more children. It's almost like breeding dogs when there are thousands of good dogs in pounds that will be killed if they are not adopted. I understand that people want to have a little mini-them, but shouldn't adoption be a consideration for every person? I think the world would be a much better place if that were the case.

Answer 1

I would love to adopt-I myself was adopted at 2 months old.But do you know how expensive adoptions are?Someday when we can afford it my hubby and I want to adopt a little girl from China.Right now we have a biological 19 month old son and I am 30 weeks pregnant with another boy.But in the future-yes-we definantly want to look into it!

Answer 2

I also feel like more people do not do it because of the expense. If it was more affordable and not such a lengthy process more people would do it.

Don't get me wrong- I feel like the potential parents should be thoroughly interviewed and their background checked. But there's no reason to drag it on for months and months (or even years). They're not going to get any more info by dragging it out than they would get in the first couple of months.

And the fees are rediculous. I know there is a lot of cost associated with the process but come on! It's expensive enough after you get the baby to have to worry about the actual adoption fees on top of that!

Answer 3

I wish I could adopt all the babies in the world! But I can't... even if everyone adopts one child there will still be so many children left without... I have a son of my own... he is 11 months... but if my husband would give me the GO I would... it is hard because my husband doesnt feel the same way about adoption. Yes, I see what you are saying about how people want little mini-thems.. but also, how about talking to our teens and troubled people, speaking to them about pregnancy and how better it would be to take care of their children... or how it is better to WAIT until you get married or are settled... how about helping these tribes by contributing money and time? So that these mothers have the OPTION of taking care of their babies... they want to but there is so much poverty.
Other times, mothers perfer to have children and not take care of them... we need to start educated our sons and daughters so that there are more babies at HOME instead of adoption homes.

Answer 4

I say both.... I have a adopted son and Im 37 weeks pregnant and its a girl. I do understand what you are saying... there are so many children that need a good home, its very sad.
What I dont understand is people adopting from another country. You need to start where you live. Worry about our children rather than some other countrys.

Answer 5

either would be fine with me. i would love to have a child with a husband in the future, but i do want to adopt someday as well, because i know what goes on in the world and its not fair to the kids that have to live in it.
but i am all for adopting no matter what the cost. well maby nothing so extreme that no one could afford to adopt.

Answer 6

I agree with you that this planet is already severely populated. Natural resources are scarce. Personally I would rather save a baby than see them being made around me. It's the selfish, self-centered "I want a baby of my own from my own body" sector who do not stop to think of the long-term consequences of their actions in bed. They do not understand the concept of exponential population growth.

I do not have children for this very reason. I want to be part of the solution, not part of the problem and right now in 2006 it's the two legged breeders who are part of the problem of the overcrowding, lack of clean water, lack of healthy food, and lack of clean air on this planet.

People who really want children will adopt the needy children and love and provide for them.

Those who simply lust for a baby of their own just to fulfill their own selfish desires will not be respected in an already overcrowded society.

Answer 7

i agree with you and i would love to adopt but i know my partner wouldnt. he brought up a child that wasnt his and he now doesnt get to see him because of his ex and he has no rights over him (i know not the same as adoption but similar).

we have a daughter and plan to have more but if my partner said he would adopt and we could afford to adopt then i would in a heart beat.

Answer 8

adoption isn't quite as easy as you make it sound. And it's VERY expensive. It's alot cheaper to have your own thank to adopt.

Adoption fees range from $10K-$35K some without medical/legal expsense, etc. This is extremely expensive

Answer 9

adoption is an expensive, long, difficult process....i think a lot of people would consider it if it were more accessible to the average couple

Answer 10

dear meggieR,,

i know ur intention is gud,,but who doesn't want to raise their own flesh and blood?

though its painful (i dun know coz im a guy LOL), but i think every woman wants to feel at least once the experience of having babies in their bodies,,and giving birth is actually some kind of a special present that a wife can gv to his husband,,

we cannot stop people from producing child,,its their right,,but we can ask them to help giving other people children a better chance in life,,