my prob is that i really love my husband and can do anything for him but I have a terrible memory n often forget the tasks he gives me(no matter how hard i try).This makes him really angry.I try my level best to win his heart but he says that i do nt have the capability to do so.i ve also asked him to plz forgive me n try to b a bit patient with me as i m a human and have got my shortcomming as all humans do.My habit of being forgetful has made my married life terrible .I do nt know what to do?
2006-12-16 09:24:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a little notepad, 3 x 4 inch kind and a pen you can clip onto it. Wear it on the inside of your pants/dress. When he asks you to do something, pull it out and write it down. This will impress him how serious you are. Then put notes on kitchen refrigerator, coffeepot, tv remote, etc. reminding you to check the notepad. These will again be visible evidence of your effort. If he has a sense of humor, put a sticky note on his anatomy at night - tell him you want to be sure to remember if he asks something while you are both in bed.
2006-12-16 09:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is to start writing things down.
I saw a tv commercial for a tiny tape recorder that plays back your message at the push of a button...and will fit on your key chain. You might want to try that.
Also...you might consider taking one of those "improve your memory" courses BUT FIRST....is the problem your having medically related?
Many times memory problems are due to medications or illnesses.
You never gave your age but have you spoken to your Dr. about this issue?
Did you have this memory problem when you got married?
Good luck!!
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2006-12-16 09:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by Joey Bagadonuts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your husband is the one with the real problem. If he loved you the way a husband should then he would understand that you don't do it on purpose and he would be willing to forgive and even help you find ways to work around the problem. But if all else fails keep a notepad handy and make a daily list of what you need to do. That is one solution, how to solve the problem of your husband being an *** is something I can't help with though, sorry.
2006-12-16 09:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by David S 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
[a] he's a demanding jerk
[b] if you want to stay with him tell him two things have to happen: 1) you'll get a PDA (like a palm pilot) and put all your tasks into that, then it will chime and remind you when to do stuff. people use them all the time. heck you can enter them into your cell phone if you want. so enter stuff when you're talking about it and set an alarm and presto - no more problem, but b) he better by god lighten up of you'll start calling attention to all of his faults - and he has plenty don't worry.
tell him to get with this new program or you'll kick his sorry demanding a$s right to the curb where the rest of the trash is.
2006-12-16 10:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting treatment for ADD can help with the forgetfulness (I recommend Adderall).
For your second problem, you need to stand up to your husband and demand that he respect and love you, or get out of your house. Don't allow him to treat you like this, it's mental abuse that YOU DO NOT DESERVE!!!
So by all means, get help for your problem. But also know that his behavior is also a problem, and if he won't change you are perfectly justified in kicking him out of your house in self-defense.
2006-12-16 10:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'll try to put it like this.When we love someone we except their faults too.We try to help them with their faults.Since all he does is get mad and doesn't try to help you with this.Then you might want to think about why he doesn't. You can always wright things down.Especially the things that he wants done.But if there is verbal abuse and demands on you then you need to think why you stay in this marriage.It isn't healthy.I wish you all the luck.
2006-12-16 09:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tasks that he gives you?? what is he your keeper or something?and this crap that you don't have the capability to win his heart because you don't remember things? i would be telling this idiot that because i have such a bad memory i wont have trouble forgetting his name. but that's just me.i guess you could write things down on a tablet and check them off as you get them done.
2006-12-16 09:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's your memory that causing you trouble. I think it's your husband that sounds like he doesn't give a hoot about you. When a spouse is unsupportive there is no marriage. Get out now before it gets worse. Theres lots of men out there that will appreciate you.
2006-12-16 09:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by moveandlose 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to shut the hell up, if he wants something done do it his own damn self. You don't need anyone insulting and bashing you about anything and tell him you will go off on his ***
2006-12-16 09:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋