2006-12-16 09:13:29 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would, just to see how they act around the kids, their influence on them is going to affect the way your kids behave.
2006-12-16 09:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by Prying Pandora 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me say that you don't HAVE to do anything you don't want to do. Ask yourself why does it matter and way out the good and the bad things about letting her come. You might want to let her come so that you can see how she interacts with your kids so that you can have a piece of mind that your kids are in good hands when they go with their dad and the girlfriend. Does she want to come or does your ex want her to because that also makes a difference. I have been the 'new girlfriend' in a situation like that before and I never went into my fiance's ex's home when he visited his daughter. I had no need to because it would've been to uncomfortable for me and probably the ex too. What ever you decide to do keep your kids first and make sure that you are being a good role model for them and forget about the bull. Good luck.
2006-12-16 09:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by iLuVMyFaMiLy:) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you do not have to, however let me advise you on this, the better your relationship with your ex and his girlfriend the more well adjusted and happier your kids are going to be. I have been divorced for 6 years now and my ex and I get along very well,consequently our children are very happy and well adjusted. I have had instances when I was going to get my kids and the new g/f would go too, this let's the kids know that there is no "bad guy" in the relationship and makes it easier for all involved.
2006-12-16 14:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your ex coming to visit or taking them out? If he is coming to visit them then its rude on his part and uncomfortable able at best! However what are you teaching the children if you throw a fit or say "she cant come!" If he is taking them elsewhere he has every right to bring her along. If she is the GF the kids will see her so they might as well get use to her and like her! Would you shield kids from your BF? He is moving on as you might be as well be the adult and just leave it be.
2006-12-16 09:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to go half way with him on the issue but always try to get more out of it than he does. Its sounds like he is using the new GF as a bit of a tool on you but don't let that bother you its such a waste of you time and energy (hope that's not too deep)
Start off (if you can) by saying to him (Not telling or Not begging) that right now you don't feel that comfortable about it but you are willing to give it a go and you make the rules.
Give it a go and don't let him get you down about it
Good luck
RTC
2006-12-16 12:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by raythecat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is your house and if you do not want her in your house then tell him you would rather have just him visiting the kids. He is probably doing this to show you that he has a new girlfriend shame on him.
2006-12-16 09:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's visiting them in your home, it's entirely up to you. You don't have to let him do anything. It may be the best way for you to see for yourself exactly how she treats your kids and their reaction to her. Give her some space to see the real her. If you hover, she'll be Mother Teresa. You want to see how she really is with them. I don't advise an invite unless she is someone important to him. No sense confusing or hurting the kids with a revolving door of women.
2006-12-16 09:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by justcurious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to no. but why create conflicts? this girl may end up being in your kids life for a long time and i think that i would rather be able to see how she is around my kids. try to be mature about this for the kids. but if things don't work out with your ex and this girl and he meets someone else,and wants to bring her, that's when i would put a stop to it. just tell your ex that your not going to keep letting his new girlfriends in and out of yours and the kids life.
2006-12-16 09:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by here to help 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No - the time he has with your children and his children is special and he is not allowed to bring his new girlfriend. He can see her all the time and he needs to be available for the children. Also if she is a new girlfriend then its not fair on the children to have new faces around when they are already coping with the split up of their parents and not too mention its uncomfortable for you too. NO NO NO
2006-12-16 09:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you better see this new girlfriend because if their dad spends time with the kids with the girlfriend then you need to know what kind of person is going to be near your children. if she turns out looking like you can't trust her with your kids... then better talk to the ex about it
2006-12-18 12:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is only coming to pick them up to take them to his place, you really can't do anything about it. But,if he is visiting them in your home, I would hope she has better sense than to expect you to welcome her. I do hope you are not thinking of keeping the children from their Dad because of his girlfriend. I have been through this and the children ended up being confused.
2006-12-16 10:41:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋