Has anyone on here heard that your 30's are usually a happier/better time than being in your 20's?

Question

I'm 28 years old and still feel I am waiting/searching for something. When does a person get to a point where it all slots into place?

Answer 1

thats sooooooooo true! i know,i lived it.20's-zits(still!),small apartment with obnoxious roommates,finishing stressful school,searching for the right job,relationship,etc.30's-husband,house,job,self-confidence,more money,travel,autonomyall my friends agree,in the 20's,u are still at loose ends,and poor and struggling.by ur mid 30's,u get it all together and feel like u could conquer the world!!!! i wouldnt go back in time if u paid me,the 20's were all just bad boyfriends and entry-level crap jobs.so hang in there-it gets waaaay better!!!!.

Answer 2

Well, you're at your physical the peak in your 30s but you've got all the problems of kids, mortgages, responsibilities, etc.
As you get on top of these things and become more financially secure, your body starts to play up.
It's a b*gger!
Seriously. . . Life is difficult. It just is. You can either be philosophical about it and accept the bad bits as well as the good - in which case you'll be happy. Or you can moan about it and feel hard-done-by - in which case you'll become a bitter old person.
As to whether there ever comes that time when it's all perfect? Nah! I'm 69 - if it ever happens, I'll let you know.

Answer 3

I think that if we can stick to the maxim "to thine own self be true" then it is less painful. Speaking for myself, when I was in my twenties, I was very vulnerable so that by the time I hit thrity I was a little tired. I allowed people to push me around and impose their ideas upon me.

For some people it is not so difficult to get the penny to fall into
the slot ... I think because they are determined to be themselves.
That can happen at any age. But, some people never find themselves, because they can't hear themselves and they don't know what they want for themselves and often they do not feel that they have the right to do so, or - more importantly - the need to do so.

I have learned that the thing to do is to simply keep on going. Sometimes breakthroughs come when we are not expecting them, and from unexpected places.

I also think that when we stop caring what other people think, it releases a lot of tension. Not that we are turning into a nasty person, just that we don't give up our personhood to someone else . It creates a big space, where we can be quiet and think about what we want, as opposed to what others want or expect from us That question of having enought space reminds me of a saying: your space ends where mine begins, and my space ends where yours begins.

I think those two things are important: to listen to what you are trying to tell yourself ..... and to feel that you have rights.

Answer 4

It'll happen for you love - they say the 30's are better because people reckon that by 30 most people have reached a more settled stage in their life (not all people though). Dont worry about it - one day you'll look back and realise how far you've moved on from when you were in your 20's. No matter what the age - just be happy xxxxxxx

Answer 5

Being 30 was better for me. You kind of get established on where you are going and what you are doing. The little things no longer seem so big, (How does that person feel about me. Is anyone going to care that my hair is not perfect). You start fitting into your skin because you really start figuring out who you are.

Answer 6

I think that everyone's time of life fulfillment is differnet. I am 21, feeling that I am finally coming into something, but probably it wont be realized until late twenties, early thirties.
It's logical to think that hte 30s woudl be happiest, you are done with school, probably more deep rooted in career and possibly family. These could be the best year of your life upcoming, good luck!

Answer 7

You are still "waiting" because you think that you have to. Get out there and "DO" something! Then things will fall into place.You can't just sit and wait and think that life is just going to come to you and unfold into place. That's why it's called the "PURSUIT of happiness". Go out there and GET IT! Make it happen for you the way you dream it.............

Answer 8

30's better than 20's, and 40's better than 30's

Answer 9

Never mind your thirties wait for the roarin forties.I sneaked away
to my first girlfriends fiftieth birthday 400 miles away,in Barnsley.
an de mrs found out,ive still got the scars

Answer 10

I'm 42 ans still waiting. i am more confident now and am able to say more about what i am feeling - especially is someone p*sses me off, but am i happier - probably not.