I have been with my boyfriend for 11 months. Overall, we have a really awesome relationship. He's a great guy, and I love him. Right after Halloween, I started spending a lot of time with a friend and old interest of mine. I did not tell either of them about the other. I continued my relationship with my boyfriend, and continued to see this other guy. For almost 2 months this went on, and I couldn't figure out what to do. The other guy and I slept together once. This past weekend, feeling guilty, I broke it off with my boyfriend. A few hours passed, and I realized that this really wasn't what I wanted to do. I went back to his place around 2am on Monday, and spent the night. The following morning, I told him that I did not want to end our relationship, and I told him about the other guy. Now, he won't speak to me. He gave me all my things back, and told me it was over. I have tried to contact him, but I get no response. I miss him terribly, and regret what I have done. He's my boy. ;-(
2006-12-16 09:05:11 · 6 answers · asked by Chris R 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
This morning I woke up to a drunk voice mail from him telling me that he doesn't miss me at all.
2006-12-16 09:06:05 · update #1
The other guy has since discovered everything as well, and has forgiven me and is eager to continue on with me. I'm hesitant to do so, because I still love my boyfriend so much.
2006-12-16 09:10:52 · update #2
I've tried texting him, e-mailing him, leaving him voice mails. I've let him know how sorry I am, and how much I love and miss him. He's my best friend, and I made a huge mistake. I've cried everyday since Monday, and keeping hoping he'll call me and invite me to talk.
2006-12-16 09:21:24 · update #3
When you break someone's heart like that, its really hard to get over it. Its like a relationship decrease. Next time you wait until your sure!
2006-12-16 13:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Kj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could only imagine how much it would have hurt him hearing all this. You made a mistake and a very stupid one for that, now you must face the consequences. See thats what happens when you do things with out thinking about the future. You cheated there is no way around that. It can be very hard to get over that especially if one loves the person who cheated. I hope it works out for the best for all parties involved. Try to talk to him about it and admitt how stupid you were to do such a thing. Good luck man.
2006-12-16 17:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sui Generis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is tell him how much you care about him if he doesnt want to be with you then you will know chances are if you cheated on him then you werent happy with him anyways.... but he will need some time to cool off from this so give him a couple of days and then call him, but you might just think that you still want to be with him because you guys have been together for a while but things dont always work out but there are plenty of guys out there and i learned from experience that when i did this to my ex that there was a reason why because he wasnt m,aking me happy and you only live life once make yourself happy and do what you want to do gurl !!! good luck let me know how thigns go but he will probably giev you another chance if he truly loves you just give him some time
2006-12-16 17:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry kid but ya' screwed up and I don't blame him. I'm sorr that your hearts broken but if you really love him you will do whatever it takes for him to love you again. He's probably really jealous because he loves you a lot and he probably feels unloved. Show him love and he will go back hopefully.
2006-12-16 17:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You broke his heart
You should of been honest . told him about the other guy and took your Chances of what he would do or say.
You were not the least bit concerned about him by breaking up
it should of been the other guy .
you should of broke it off and stayed with your boyfriend.
2006-12-16 17:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-well you did screw up pretty bad--but I'm sure he still loves you (that's why he left a drunk recording on your machine)but as far as him taking you back: I don't know ---he may not he's lost the trust in you he once had..
2006-12-16 17:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by Art 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋