okay, upon coming into high school, all my friends have blossomed, and all have boyfriends, and millions of friends. I have 10 friends, no boyfriend, I cannot stand myself. i hate life. i feel like i have no friends, no life. how can i just let loose? how can I let loose and chill and make a million friends?
2006-12-16 08:10:24 · 8 answers · asked by harajuku girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
please, any advice?
2006-12-16 08:18:21 · update #1
1. Think more highly of yourself. You have to care about yourself in order for others to care about you.
2. Get to know some of your peers by casually talking to them. Start talking to the kids you sit near/next to in your classes.
3. Another way to make friends is to join some school clubs/activities/sports teams. You'll meet a ton people that you have things in common with that way.
4. Making a million friends isn't exactly a great thing. Chances are, if you have a million friends you won't have as many true friends, which is a necessity in high school. True friends won't stab you in the back, so cherish those 10 close friends you have.
Just my 2 cents. =]
2006-12-16 09:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by behappy03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make friends you have to be confident with yourself. Just start with a simple "Hi" or "Hello." Then give a compliment. Then find something in common so you guys have something to talk about.
Next of all, it's okay not to have a boyfriend. The right person will come at the right time. So just be paitient.
Good Luck! :-)
2006-12-16 08:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by *Kendall* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you cannot stand yourself, you hate life... That's your problem dear girl!
If you can't stand yourself how will anyone else stand you? People do not hang around with people who hate life, and are depressed, negative, etc.
First, is there some particular reason you are depressed or is it just because you feel you are 'out in the cold' compared to your friends? If there is a certain reason, you need to find some professional help. If it's just because of your situation, then do this:
First for yourself:
1. Learn to love yourself. Write down 10 things about you that are really great. Every morning, think or read these things until you believe them. Tell yourself at least 10 times a day how great you are, why you are great, and why people will like you.
Learning to love yourself is the first step and you have to take it or the rest will not work! No one likes people who don't like themselves. We may pity them, we may want to help them, but deep down we don't really like them. How can we?? If someone can't first like themselves, how can we expect anyone else to?!
Now, once you master the thing above, give yourself a GREATBIGHUG, tell you how much you love you then do the following with other people:
1. smile more (people like to feel good, and seeing someone smile makes them feel good)
2. compliment someone. When you meet someone, look for something about them that is nice, impressive, something you think is good about them and tell them. (People love to know that other people like things about them. We all need that)
3. You don't have to chatter, but learn to talk a little bit. Laugh when someone says something funny. Make positive comments about the conversation.
4. Find people who make you feel comfortable. If someone makes you feel bad, don't hang around them. It's like cancer; once bad feelings get into you they spread, especially if you've just gotten to the point where you are starting to feel good!
Once you have mastered those, then go find someone that is like you were, and encourage them. Show them what is good about themselves and help them to love themselves.
Once you've done that you are the One!
Good luck to you.
2006-12-16 08:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by markawfg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know many pple might find this a bit offensive but gal u've got 2 gain a bit more self esteem as well as self concept. self concept mostly because its' how u perceive yr self. some pple pretend to be having fun jus so 2 cover up 4 something so be careful wat u wish 4. I'm not dat old only 16 so I might sound insensitive but its' bcoz I'm only trying 2 help u. u stay focused at yr xul work n u'll be surprised jus how happy u'll be without having a million friends n boyfriends. Gd luck
2006-12-16 09:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. If your friends have a million friends. Chances are that 990 thousand of them will be backtrashing her. If you have 10 really good friends, try to maintain the relationship with them, because they will be the ones who will be there when you need them.
2006-12-16 19:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by lucstudent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and be more outgoing. Just mingle with new people that you have never ever talked to before. Stirke up random conversations. Dont be shy. Being shy will get you nowhere in life. Good luck.
2006-12-16 08:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by crazy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
become more active with your friends if they invite you to do something do it . you will meet new people and have a good time but if u don't feel what there are doing is right don't do it. as for the boyfriend thing don't worry about it there's lots of time for that.
Merry Christmas
2006-12-16 08:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by Reaper G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you don,t need millions of friends you only need one and the reason you feel that way is because you don,t see the beautiful qualities that you have to offer that one friend
2006-12-16 08:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by r1114@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋