I know lots of people are going to comment this saying 'stupid question' and 'idiot' but... i've been with my boyfriend for nearly two years, and he's cheated on me 3 times. but i forgave him every time. he hasnt done it again for about a 10 months and says he's changed. i REALLY beleive him. but i love him SO much. it feels like too much. i lost my virginity to him. and i feel dependant. It's a really weird feeling having someonelse being a part of me. does anyone understand what i mean?
2006-12-16 07:38:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
i understand exactly what you are going through because i went through the same thing with my first just a couple of years ago. He was always cheating on me also and i kept taking him back because i couldn't picture my life without him at the time. But, after being hurt so much i felt that i couldn't trust him at all. i was so paranoid that i didn't believe anything he said anymore. so we broke up and now i have trust issues with men. all I'm saying is that you don't need a man to validate you. You are better than that and i think you should dump him and find somebody who loves and respects you enough to not cheat on you at all. you deserve it!!!!!!!!
2006-12-16 07:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by Constance B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel i was with my EX from 13 untill i hit 20 he cheated on me dont know how many times but i always that i loved him id never find anyone to treat me like he does when he wasnt cheating i thaught he was my every thing cause he was my first everything. but i got pregnant and found out he had gave me 2 stds. luckly they was cureable but that is when i said it was over what was he going to bring home next? possibly something meds cant get rid of. i know you think he probly is changed but from my experiance he will only change for a little while he will change untill you put your guard down to trust him to hang out with his friends and that is when he will do it again. or he will tell you he was over at a buddys house lol jokes one you shane just happened to be shannon. i know how you feel but be careful with guys like this. you will 1 leave. or 2 allow him to keep cheating because by still being there you just give him the green light to go. and he knows you are going to be there for him after he does it again and again and again. you just have to chose whats good enough and whats not. now i am 25 with a man that makes good money buys me things all the time we have 2 kids to gether and im a happy stay at home mom with my kids. i couldnt ask for a better guy. if i had stayed with my EX look at all that i wouldnt have. i wouldnt have a guy that comes home to me every night i wouldnt have a guy that really really cares for me. when me and the kids are happy he is happy. unlike my EX that only thaught of his self. and here is a question for you to think about IF HE REALLY LOVED YOU WOULD HE REALLY BE SLEEPING WITH OTHER CHICS? he has crossed a line not 1 time but 3 times and its impossible for you to ever feel towards him what you felt before he cheated. i tried. you will have mood swings and be in bad moods from it and start arguements just to try to make him feel bad about when really all that is doing is pushing him to his next hole to fall into. but any ways good luck with that
2006-12-16 09:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by cute redhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand i have gone through almost the same thing. i know you must love him but if he cheated on you 3 times he dosen't deserve to be with someone like you who is commited to being faithful when he is out not caring about your feelings and being with other girls. I hope things get better
2006-12-16 09:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by star lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So u say that u love him. Do u love yourself the way you say that u love him. if he cheated on u 3 times not 1 but 3. baby girl u donot owe him any thing.why do u love. do love suppose to hurt. now you are counting the months girl please trust and belivie he will do it again get out wild you can. u have to love yourself. and right now you are not loving self. to sum it up love yourself respect youreself.
2006-12-16 08:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kia W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just thinking about changing your partner for while. How can you trust hime anymore when he always a liar person. Alot couple they have chance to come together when they seperate for a years.
2006-12-16 08:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Komsat/sad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand what you mean but i think you should start being independent i know it might be hard since he is the first guy.. but u need to
2006-12-16 07:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by ohhh lalalala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yea we have all been somewhere like that or close, we are women and we want to believe......
2006-12-16 08:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋