My inlaws go the distance to visit my husband's sister & spend loads of money on her children for Christmas. However, they send a card w/
10. for each of my 6 children in the mail even though they don't live that far from us. His sister lives MUCH further. My parents never celebrated due to their religion, so that's out of the question. My husband usually drinks excessively on the holidays & this is the
last straw. I don't want the children nor I spending Christmas
here w/ him. I don't know where else to go that doesn't cost alot.
We haven't any friends to visit on the holidays, either. I want to take
the children somewhere special so that they can look back and say, "Christmas of '06 was memorable; this is what we did".
Does anyone have any ideas? Thanks.
2006-12-16 07:36:44 · 9 answers · asked by SistineAngel 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
Children need love.They are like little sponges.If you create a special 2006 christmas for them they will remember. Remember is key here. God will help you if you help yourself. A mother's love has no boundary's.Sing carol's with the kid's Bake them treat's Let them participate in decorating.Even the man who you say drink's too much can be persuaded to not drink so much or even to give it a break for the kid's for a day.Be kind and merry christmas.
2006-12-16 07:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by jo jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about seeking out a good friend like a best friend who has children, and telling them the promblem, and ask if it would be ok to spend christmas with them for awhile,? Or heres another idea, Get a small ham and some stuff that goes with the ham, and cook a nice dinner just for your little family, Get a couple of movies that the kids would love and while your cooking have them watch the movies, or heres another idea, plan a trip, get in the car and suprise your kids to a trip to Disney and they can see the parade
2006-12-16 07:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by trudycaulfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi:
You could take them to a midnight mass at a beautiful church, even if you are not Catholic. If you are open minded, it might let your family enjoy some of the best of Christmas feelings and spirit. I'm not Catholic, but raised as a Baptist, and I've visited several types of religious ceremonies, and Christmas mass is beautiful. When I was 13, I attended a friend's bat mitzvah with my mother, and it was really fun and interesting. Hope this helps, and maybe gives you some more ideas.
2006-12-16 09:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by artistpw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a way you can talk your husband into going to his sister's for Christmas just to get him out of the house? If not I would still go to my parents. They should be understanding to your situation and respect your wishes to give your kids a great Christmas even if they don't celebrate it themselve. There is no way my father would let me or my children be in that type of environment so I'm sure they'll be there for you. Thats what parents are for.
2006-12-16 07:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by truly_insightful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should stay at home, but tell you husband he's going to have to choose between the booze or the family.
If he insists on drinking, send HIM packing.
Tell him there will be No DRINKING, NO ALCOHOL of any kind in the house one week before and one week after Christmas. If he wants to drink, let him find somewhere to go.
Tell him bluntly that this should be about the KIDS, not His selfish desires.
His parents don't want to come to you, could this be because of his drinking?
Make this a memorable Christmas but laying down the law and making a positive change in their lives...
Good Luck and God Bless you and your family!
2006-12-16 07:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your situation.
Is it possible that your in-laws don't want to spend time with your family because of your husband?
I can't believe that your children's grandparents wouldn't do everything they could to help them --especially at Christmas.
Please try talking to them again. Maybe they would celebrate with you and the kids if your husband didn't go.
TELL THEM that you just want your kids to have a memorable Christmas surrounded by people who love them.
Best of luck to you and your family!
2006-12-16 07:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing where you live its tough to say. You could maybe take them sledding or lok in the paper or on-line for local Christmas events, such as a parade or concert. Then a nice dinner and a Christmas movie.
2006-12-20 02:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take them to Church, and show them the real meaning of x-mas. Then take them out for dinner, and maybe go Ice- katting. Then go home and be thankful you all still have each other to share a x-mas.
Hope everything gets better for you soon. And Merry x-mas.
Hope your little ones enjoy it.
2006-12-16 08:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Domingo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have the opposite problem of what I usually hear. People wish they didn't have to go in families, so they can stay home with their own kids, Santa, and all the excitement of the day. Stay home, and give your kids some memories of their own home at Christmas.
2006-12-16 07:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by Shossi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋