Just wondering what tools or knowledge they may posess that all of us under the blanket of singularity do not already have.
2006-12-16 07:25:15 · 10 answers · asked by camus_toe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They'll tell you your marriage is almost doomed, doomed to the bitter core but they can help you. Just make the appointments on your way out and don't forget to pay.
2006-12-16 08:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good friend a counselor for 30 years. Working thru the betrayal is a two year process with no guarantee that the marriage can be saved. Marriage is Admiration, Respect, Passion, and Trust. When the trust is gone, and the partner has shared body and soul with another, the other two either erode, or blow up right in your face. The marriage is stalled, and will fail unless those line of communication are re-opened, and the couple can talk about why this occurred. Often times when just the couple try to work things out, the conversation gets into a raging fight and the marriage surely cannot heal. So, facilitators are in essence, what counselors are, with, of course, no guarantee. Frankly, I'd never bother trying to fix a betrayed marriage. In my eyes, it is THE only dealbreaker, and a counselor could six with me and a husband, and the betrayal would be toooooo great to ever overcome.....A wise old lady once told me: "The only thing good reheated is stuffed cabbage." I think that is probably correct.
Helpful?
2006-12-16 23:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They supply a forum for conversation that allows both parties involved discuss without confrontation or arguing. And get to the root of the issues. Help the two people involved come to a compromise and a way to begin to heal. This is done under the laws of confidentiality. And they are highly trained professionals. and can get people to discuss things that are very painful and with the discussion many times it relives some of the pain and allows people to discover things about themselves they really did not understand or even realize existed. God bless****
2006-12-16 15:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A counselor has both the formal education along with the experience of helping others work thru their problems. A counselor with dealing with many couples and singles finds ways that actually work and pass that tried knowledge on to others. Not everyone trying counseling actually finds it works. But its like every other profession, with time and hands on experience comes solutions and knowledge that most people never acquire nor should never try, like Drs. and masters and journeyman of any construction trade for example.
2006-12-16 15:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have been through counceling for our marriage and one of the issues we had worked at resolving was because of an affair that I had, and we have been able to get through it. What he did was helped us to talk about it, and to listen to each other, about what we were thinking and feeling and helped me to realize how much pain it had caused her. And helped her to be able to forgive me for it. And also has helped to give me suggestions to help rebuild the trust that was lost. It all depends on the councelor. My wife and I have seen a pastor from our church for marriage counceling and he's really helped us alot. He also teaches our parenting class in Sunday School at church.
2006-12-16 15:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The councilor is a neutral third party in a highly charged emotional situation. They are specially trained to help guide people back to a path of healing.
2006-12-16 15:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by Vicki B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your partner had had an affair and you choose to work it out, proffesional help is a good thing, you talk it through and find solutions or decide to end your realationship.
Good luck
Irene
2006-12-16 15:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would individualized based on thepeople and circumstances. All affairs aren't for the same reasons. Everyone isdifferent, if you feel you need help, then find one in your area.
2006-12-16 15:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by dana j 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some people can't talk to the other half of their relationship because it's hard as if you would talk to a counsler you say what ever you want to them and it helps your relationship to be strong.
2006-12-16 15:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgraciesmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-16 15:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋