My friend has tried to commit suicide a couple of times. And im really worried.The last TWO times she tried it or was seriously thinking about it, she called me and i was on the phone with her for 2 hours talking her out of it while she was hysterical on the other line...
I talked to her mom about it because I thought of it as a last resort, but im not sure if theres anything else i can do...
Shes a really great friend when shes not upset and we have great times together when shes not crying and actually decides to come to school but is it worth it to stay friends with her?
Shes told me that im really a big part of the reason she gets up in the morning, and that without me, she doesnt think school or her life is worth it sometimes... so im thinking, what if she tries to kill herself again, and im not home or busy, and i cant talk her out of it.
if i cant be friends with her anymore, what should i do to ease out of the relationship with out her feeling ditched?
Help!
2006-12-16 07:10:25 · 10 answers · asked by Olivia L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl, If you truly care about her at all you will not run out on her. Look,depression is a very difficult disease, and isn't a real reflection on the true person behind it.If you want to help her, convince your friend and her mom that she obviously needs more professional help then she is getting.If you know how good of a person she is beyond the depression, and you are aware how important your friendship is to her right now,how can you ever think that there is a quick and easy way out of this for you? If the shoe was on the other foot, how hurt and worse off do you think you would be if she was willing to run out on you?
Be strong and be there for her. It isn't easy I know but in the end, she will get better sooner or later and then you will truly know what its like to have and be a true friend.If for some reason she doesn't get better and takes her life and you couldn't stop her, at least you will know you did the best you could to try and prevent it.No one is perfect and know one can fix it all, but at least if you give it your best shoot, you just might not only help her, but save a life.
2006-12-16 07:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aside from a doctor's care, the most important thing this girl needs is a friend. Don't ditch her friendship. Help her develop a positive attitude by doing fun things together. Consider going with her to counseling on occasion (this may depend on the severity of her condition) to show her and her therapist that you care. Keep a scrapbook of the good times you two shared, and when she feels sad, have her look at it and talk about the content in the scrapbook. Also encourage her to keep a journal and start a new hobby together. Positive, constructive activities should help keep suicidal thoughts and the temptation of self-harm out of her mind. I have depression myself. Although not clinical, I can see what this girl goes through because I've experienced the temptation for self-harm and suicidal thoughts as well.
2006-12-16 07:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by Rebekah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, honey! You can't fix it and are not responsible to, but she needs your support and she needs medical attention ASAP! Suicidal thoughts are a problem caused by imbalances in certain brain chemicals and they need to be treated. It is not just psychological and it's not just "in her head."
This is very serious. If her mother won't take immediate action, and I mean RIGHT NOW, you need to find a responsible adult such as a trusted teacher, school nurse, or guidance counselor who will get her to a doctor. She will most likely need prescription anti-depressants to help her brain chemicals to work properly.
Even if she resists, you have to be strong and if necessary, physically force her to the doctor. She can't see a way out of it right now but once she gets treatment, she'll wonder how she ever got to that point. I know because I've been there.
2006-12-16 07:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should remain her friend. Talk to her and see why she is so depressed. Maybe you can each do a sport together and have her hang out with some of your friends. Friends are what she needs in a time like this.
2006-12-16 07:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by dnelak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Do not ditch her. She needs a friend right now. And not just a friend trying to talk her out of suicide. A friend who can show her a good time, and to love herself.
Best Wishes! ;-)
2006-12-16 07:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Charming's Princess♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a friend, the best thing to do for her would be to help her enroll with a professional who can help her better. "talking" to her will not solve her issue. She is too far gone. Trust me, I had a former best friend like that. All she did was depressed me.
2006-12-16 07:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by roxylee11782 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
attempt doing issues mutually that get her suggestions off of her issues. dangle out on the mall. pass to a action picture. pass to church. attempt doing slightly volunteer artwork. Antidepressant medicine often takes as long as 2 weeks to kick in. Psychiatrists will shop a affected person on medicine for a 12 months to ascertain if it works. So she has to dangle in there.
2016-10-05 09:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by erlebach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should remain friends with her... if you did "break up" and she committed suicide, would you deal with it well? i wouldn't! clearly the situation is stressful on both of you. do you think that she is doing it for attention? there are places that you could refer her to. suicide hotlines, school counselors, etc. i think that you have done your part. PS if you told her mom about it, where the hell is she in this situation?
2006-12-16 07:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by kk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay close to her and be her friend....don't leave her to struggle alone....being depressed is not easy...you have been of great help to her and you should continue to do so....we all need someone by our side....and she needs you very much, especially now...so don't give up on her...give her hope to live...make her feel happy....and always be there for her...
2006-12-16 07:20:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should be under a doctors care and taking meds..
You are not responsible for her..
She does need you to be her friend if you are able to do so...
2006-12-16 07:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋