2006-12-16 06:27:53 · 17 answers · asked by Emily 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
No, I do not believe in "the one". I believe you have several potential best matches and you choose the one who you want to mutually be with and care for. I don't believe in just "one" because what if that person died, moved, etc. The theory of just one would then mean that you will never have true love again, and I believe there is potential for true love at any time in your life, not just when you meet one person. Timing counts too much.
2006-12-16 06:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by angel444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh tough one!!
I believe that the more work you put in something, the closer you get attached to it. Think about a house you restored, or the work and time you use raising your kids, or the time spend fixing your bike.. the effort attaches you to the item and makes you care. I believe it is the same with "The one". "The one" becomes "the one" when so many battles are won and hurdles are conquered and good times are spend.
A whole other question is, what makes "the one" worthy of your effort. Is it because you can sense he is "the one" right away..
Confused? I know i am..
2006-12-16 17:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by ikpfradk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in "the one" because is always going to be someone that has many common things with you and looking for the same thing you are. If you look hard enough you may find that certain someone but sometimes you let that person slip by and you may never be able to tell that person. I very much believe in "the one".
2006-12-16 14:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely!
I was with someone for 9 years. I never felt like he was "the one" but I loved him, we shared some great memories. He looked good on paper. He was my best friend. It was hard to let go. When I saw Sleepless in Seattle, I bawled. I thought, he's not my Tom Hanks (soulmate) he's my Bill Pullman (just a nice guy but not my Mr. Right). We broke up & got back together several times. He was my safe place & when you put that many years into something you hate to throw it away. Plus, I had people telling me there's no such thing as "the one" that it's a fairy tale. I'm a romantic with a practical side. He seemed like a good catch in many ways but I couldn't see spending my life with him. Inevitably we parted ways.
Recently I've met someone I believe is "the one." He flirted with me from the first day we met. I was singing on stage & he yelled out "I'm your biggest fan." He's a fellow singer/songwriter/musician at the bar where I perform each week. Anyway, he kept flirting & eventually we sat down & talked. I was very intrigued. He lives in a recording studio & invited me to call & set up a time to record some of my music (his way of subtly seducing me I suppose...) As I got to know him, it seemed we had even more in common (both sensitive, sensual Tauruses, both practical dreamers, both philosophical). He said that he knew the first time he looked in my eyes that I was the one. He hadn't dated anyone in 3 years (though he'd had a lot of girls try to pick him up. As a musician he tends to meet a lot of people.) He knew I was different. He could see the passion in my eyes. I felt the same way about him. He has these piercing blue eyes & this soulfulness about him...On our first date he was singing a love song he'd written for "the girl he was going to meet" & I remember thinking "I can picture him singing this at our wedding." It scared me! In 9 years with my ex I couldn't picture marrying him & on the first date with my current boyfriend I was thinking in those terms.
When it feels right, you just know. It's so intense. It's like you knew each other before, in another life. You have so much in common. You laugh together. You can talk about anything. The passion is mind-blowing. You have such a strong connection. You look into his eyes & just melt.
Too many people settle. That's why the divorce rate is so high. If someone looks good on paper but it doesn't feel right, trust your gut instinct. Wait for "the one" he/she is out there somewhere!
I found mine! & I only had to move to a new community & take risks & change my whole life & scare myself to death to do it! Take a leap & life starts to fall into place! It's magical!
2006-12-16 15:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by amp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people seem to think you're talking about God, others love at first sight - perhaps you'd like to clarify. Maybe you mean Jet Li in the movie The ONE - yeah I 'believe' in him I guess. The fights were ok but it was badly written and too short.
2006-12-16 14:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. We are a bunch of takers really, and it's not such a bad thing. What I mean is we come into contact with multiple people, and each one gives us something--some more than others. This is how we grow. blah blah blah... Anyway, in short, no there is not just one. at least I hope not.
2006-12-17 01:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by 670000000mph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in 'The One' because if you didn't have 1 you wouldn't have 1 to 10..
2006-12-16 17:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do. My husban i met at 12 years old love at first sight.. he was 17 and i though he was god.(figure of speech) 7 years later we decided to date we were married 2 months later and have 2 children
2006-12-16 14:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r talking about God yes i do but if u arent talking about that and are talking about a mate well yes i believe in having THE ONE its all about destiny and fate i guess
2006-12-16 14:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends by who you mean by "the one". If you are talking about God, then yes, I do believe. Who else could have created such an extravagant place?
2006-12-16 14:31:44 · answer #10 · answered by Concerned of legality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋