Someone you love so much you would do anything for?
I live in London, all my famz are in my home town in North Wales. I hardly have any friends here, a few but no girl friends I can hang out with. In love with a guy, been seein him on an off for 2 an a half years, been through a lot, a hell of a lot. Had an abortion, his baby, as I thought we we were not in the right position to have a baby. A year later he tells me he has a gf an has ever since :( but carried on seein him, silly me but I loved him an still do. He split with his girl so me an him started chattin again an started seein each other again, then the ex gets pregnant. Due soon, but I still see him an love him, told him how I feel, but he dont want2get into a relationship. We live 10mins from each other, I have a financial connection with him which makes it harder. Got a loan for him, am so lost an depressed, want to leave but its my money an I've sacraficed a lot, even food, should I just let go of everything?
2006-12-16 06:24:38 · 17 answers · asked by me_me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its hard we only live down the road from each other. Should I move away from this area, like the other side of London, I wish I could move over seas but I dont know anyone far enough. Otherwise I would be gone.....
2006-12-16 06:29:37 · update #1
It's just like grieving, it feels as though it was never going to end, but in the end IT DOES. it's true, it will happen, give it time. in the meantime, you must do whatever you feel like doing, please yourself - anything you may have felt like doing but couldn't before? Now you can. Be strong.
2006-12-16 06:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by Nini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let go of EVERYTHING!!!! In the two and a 1/2 years that you have been with him he has made you loose sight of your self worth. You need a clean break from him. It sounds to me like all he want you for is sex and money. Your mistake was when you took out a loan for him. Never Give A Man Money. There was a reason why the bank didnt give him the loan so you should have taken a hint from that. Just pay off the bank your self and if he desides to pay you back he knows the address. Dont speak to him under any circumstances. Another problem you had was that you made yourself too available. In order for you to get over him you have to do everything on your terms... Remember you have to build up your own self esteem never depend on a man to validate you.... good luck girl
2006-12-16 06:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sharron W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time you got some legal advice,cab,or get a i hour free consultation with a local solicitor,when alls said and done he has abused your trust, mislead you over your relation ship,got you into an unneeded pregnancy then you had to endure an abortion,there's got to be a way out,short of breaking the law in any way,wish i could advice you better but its the best i could do at short notice,but yes the C.A.B are good and very supportive
2006-12-16 06:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you but, really, you know what you ought to do, don't you.
There is no future with this guy at all.
However much it may hurt to break off the relationship and stop seeing him, it will hurt EVEN MORE to continue.
Cut your losses.Join a gym or some sort of social club, you will meet other people...girls as well as boys.
Remember, too, that now is not always.
It sounds very glib, but time is a wonder worker.
Wish you well
2006-12-16 06:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you do need to let go of everything, the money you loaned him, the,the 2 1/2 yrs of time & the love you have already given him...and you have NOTHING but heartache to show for it. Invest in yourself, move to another area of town/city, change your phone #'s and chances are you'll meet the right one for you! Only you can change yourself, not another person...Good Luck!
2006-12-16 06:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...Sweetie, you need to leave his ***.. Cant you see, all he is doing is using you? What kinda guy treats a girl like that?? Also, please get tested for STDs! The guy doesn't believe in condoms! Why would you take out a loan for a loser like that?? I understand if you guys are in a committed relationship and if you actually see urself with him in the future. But he obviously doesnt want you and even if he does, its becuz he needs money. Dont let yourself be played like that by anyone. You deserve better. goodluck.
2006-12-16 06:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by Fashionista 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never really get over a true love and if that how you feel about some, like that your deeply in love with that person you will always keep that person some where in your heart. If it's not a true love you will find happness in your self cause your butiful and nobody can change that just put your head up and tell your self that you love your self and that nobody can conparre to you. I promise you that one day you will find true love someone that will take care of you and keep your head up. You have to love your self first before you get involed with someone. if its ment to be it'll be back for good, if it wasn't ment to be set it free forever.
2006-12-16 06:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgraciesmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are paying him for sex honey...you dont mean anything to him but a warm place to put his thing...I know that is harsh but the sooner you realize that the better off you will be...You are his fall back, his I cant get any somewhere else girl, and you should respect yourself more than that...
2006-12-16 06:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your money back, if necessary small claims court, then move on and find someone who can appreciate you and is mature enough to be in a relationship..there are billions of guys in this world.. and one of them is gunna be good for you. and make you a better person, and whos gunna treat you well . you deserve it.
2006-12-16 06:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by xblondie712x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write down everything bad he ever said or did to you and how it made you feel at the time.
read it when you think you want him back
read it when you want to ring him
read it when you wake up in the morning
read it before you go to bed.
i did this and it helped me get over my 2 timing ex.
it soon kicks you back into the real world.
2006-12-16 06:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋