My cousin died last night after a bad bout of pnuemonia. The funeral is going to be this Wednesday, the first day of finals. I really want to go, my mom really has no idea how much. She says that I would miss finals, wich I could easily make up, and that it would be too rigourus of a trip to make. I think this is complete nonsense. I can handle a lot more things than she knows. I would really appreciate a reply to this, I'm running out time to convince her. Please, help me!
2006-12-16 05:10:38 · 19 answers · asked by lilypizza 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
So a test is more important than a lost life?
tell her you can get an excuse for death of relatives in school and they'll let you make it up.
2006-12-16 05:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by =] 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm with Empress -- talk to your teachers and see what your options are for making up the exams. Then, go back to your parents and tell them how you are going to deal with making up the exams. If they see you have a plan in place, then that shows you are not shirking responsibility.
But on a deeper note, I think you should also tell your mother how important it is for you to say goodbye to someone you love. I am not sure how far away the funeral is, and whether you can actually afford to go, but if money is not the issue then you should try to talk to your mother when she is calm and the two of you have time to hash this out. Think about this in 10 months and 10 years down the road -- what is going to matter more? Being able to go to your cousin's funeral or taking finals on time? Hopefully your mother will see that sometimes family comes first. Sounds like she is very concerned about your grades and you doing well in school. That is great support, but sometimes other things -- like life -- get in the way of school.
Good luck!
2006-12-16 06:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
On Monday, go talk with all your teacher's and let them know the situation and see if it's possible to reschedule, & when you could take the final/exam, so that you could be present for your cousin's funeral. When they agree (which they should), present your Mother with all the facts and maybe even throw in how one particular teacher was extremely understanding, etc and it's no problems what-so-ever for you to reschedule. Also, snag those particular teacher's phone #'s in case your Mom would like to verify with them what you have told her.
I BET (like put money on it) that if you arrange everything ahead of time and PROVE to her that you can handle it, she'd feel rather guilty not letting you go to the funeral, being that you're trying SO hard. Always show effort. You get alot back when you do. Good luck & I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-12-16 05:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Empress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her in the same way you just told us sweety. You can make up for the finals. Maybe you could let your Mom see this and tell her it is your question. I am so sorry to hear about your cousin. I lost a grandson to pneumonia, it's so sad when someone dies so young. You really do need to go to the funeral so that you can say "Goodbye" Grown-ups sometimes think that kids can't handle death but they can and do need to pay their last respects as well as the adults. My deepest sympathies Dear.
2006-12-16 05:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I suggest that you talk to your teachers first to schedule your make-up exams. Funerals are considered good reasons to post pone finals. Once your teachers agree and schedule the make-ups, tell your mother about it, and also tell her that you feel it is important for you to go to the funeral to say your last goodbyes to your cousin, and to support your family. This way you approach it in an organized way, and your mother will see the maturity in it, and will be more likely to let you go. Good luck.
2006-12-16 06:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by keithbracht@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really rude. It's an immediate member of your family that died. You should convince her to let you attend and call the school to fix up a schedule of when you can take the finals some other day.
2006-12-16 11:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to ur mom i would say go to ur cousins funeral it is more important
exams r there thrice or four times in a year
uve grown up and this is the first step and he was ur cousin after all
there can be a retest but not a refunral
make ur mother read this maybe shell be convinced i tried my best
2006-12-16 05:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by aakash b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom that closure is what you need. Not going to a funeral can always bring questions like, are they really in heaven, what did they look like, are they at peace now? Questions like that. You should tell your mom that you would like to go to give condolences and be there for family too. You have to say good bye. I am very sorry about your loss.
2006-12-16 05:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by chrystalbryeans 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom that for the finals there is a solution, but that your cousin dies only once, tell her how much your cousin meant to you and that if you don't get to go, you will carry this burden for the rest of your life. God Bless!
2006-12-16 06:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by skydiver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE YOU ONLY HAVE 1 CHANCE TO ATTEND YOUR COUSINS FUNERAL AND YOU REALLY WANT TO GO, I THINK YOU SHOULD. EVEN IF IN THE END SHE DISAGREES I WOULD JUST GO ANYWAYS AND FIND A RIDE. IF ITS TRUELY THAT IMPORTANT TO YOU AND YOU WERE ACTUALLY CLOSE TO YOUR COUSIN- GO! IF YOU DON'T GO IT'LL PROBABLY ALWAYS BE IN THE BACK OF YOUR MIND THAT YOU NEVER WENT AND SAID YOUR LAST GOOD-BYES. YOUR MOM WILL EVENTUALLY GET OVER THE FACT THAT YOU MISSED CLASS. TRY TO CONVINCE HER THAT THIS IS YOUR ONLY CHANCE TO SAY GOODBYE.
HOPE IT WORKS OUT AND SORRY ABOUT THE DEATH
2006-12-16 05:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by eRicA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Toughie, um.... let's see... all you can really do is don't bug her, but quietly show her how much you can handle. Do the dishes, take out the trash, feed the dogs, whatever without having her tell you. Don't be annoying. Hopefully she'll see your side of this. If she doesn't, there really isn't anything you can do. Don't blame her though, just take it and be as mature about it as you can so you'll make her think she really should have let you go. Then maybe, just maybe, you can go next time.
2006-12-16 05:15:13 · answer #11 · answered by L-dog =) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋