My sister has been sexually active since she was 11. I decided to do the right thing and protect her by not telling anyone. Now my parents found out and they are mad at me for keeping her secret. I got in trouble even though I did the right thing. What can I do about it now?
2006-12-16 05:08:56 · 25 answers · asked by Emily 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well you did do the right thing by not telling anybody. For now all you can do is turn on your ipod or CD played and jus listen to music while they yell at you.
Even though i dont know you im proud of you for not snitching. Thank God that the lord has blessed your sister with a cool sister.
2006-12-16 07:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely fair, because you DID NOT do the right thing. You claim that you were protecting your sister. But, what do you think you were protecting her from? You weren't protecting her from AIDS, pregnancy, herpes, or any of the other host of STD's that are out there. You were not protecting her from the emotional scareing that happens to a child (yes child) who is sexually abused (what else can you call it if she was having sex at 11 years?) Protecting someone means that you do what is necessary to keep them safe. You failed to do that, and your parents are right to be upset with you. You also showed them that you have poor judgement, so they will likely be slower to trust you in the future.
What can you do now? If you can honest own up to your mistake, and explain to your parents how you bought into "wrong thinking", you might repair some of the damage. Beyond that, take it like mature person should and simply accept your punishment.
2006-12-16 06:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jonas_J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how old you are but I think you should have told your parents about your sister. My Goodness 11 is way to young for her to be doing this with boys. She should be playing with her Barbies! You did not do the right thing! If I were your Grandma I'd be mad at you too! It's all out in the open now and now maybe they can get some help for your sister before its to late.sorry but I am on your parents side with this one.
2006-12-16 05:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not your job to be a 'tattle tale', however, your sister was doing something she should not have been doing. What you should have done is tell your parents immediately then it should have been your sister who should have been upset. Go to your parents and tell them you're sorry for not telling them and that it will never happen again. Your sister needs help and it's up to your parents to do the right thing.
Keeping secrets is fine but when it's something as big as having sex - then all deals are off.
A normal secret is like who she likes or something small. Sex is a really big issue and you parents had every right in the world to know about this.
2006-12-16 05:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
properly if no longer some thing else you're easily confident you've been doing the right ingredient. What if she became snorting coke even with the truth that. would you've informed them then that she became hurting herself? And why are you precise to imagine that an 11 yo must be having sex in the first position. Few human beings(as well pedos) would back you on that concept. the unhappy section is that she is now confronted with lifelong emotional and perchance actual damages due for your "rightness". Do you already understand how demanding it must be for her to have little ones later on because of her sexaul activity at that age. perchance you ought to get genuine one time and own as a lot because the very undeniable truth that you've been negligent in the obligations of an older sibling.
2016-10-18 09:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest about why you did not tell them- If you told them, they would have gotten mad and confronted your sister about her actions. You were doing what you thought was right and letting your sister confide in you, and if anything really serious was to happen to her, yes you would have told. But also as a young teenager you feel that she should be able to make her own choices. You are sorry for not telling them, but being a good sister was more important than tatling on her.
This is going to be tough for me when my kids get older, I would hate to think my baby having sex at 11 years old, with STD's, guys taking advantage of her, and the fact she even wants to have sex at 11 would make me wonder what is wrong emotionally with her. That is why your parents are mad, they feel like there is an underlying problem to your sisters sexual adventures. And they could not stop it sooner
2006-12-16 05:15:20 · answer #6 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the point of view on if you did the right thing. I personally would like my kids to tell if they found out about the other having intercourse. ANd there is nothing you can do just live with the punishment and get over it. It's a lot better then living in a house with a baby from a 12 year old.
2006-12-16 05:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by darlene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you did not do the right thing. You should have told your parents your sister was having sex. What would you have done if she was pregnant? Wait until your parents noticed at 5 months? Yes it is fair that your grounded and personally I think your sister needs to get thrown in boot camp. I bet she'll straighten up after that.
2006-12-16 08:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister was being raped at 11 and your silence was only protecting her rapist.
In a court of law, that makes you as guilty as the rapist, and could (and probably SHOULD) be spending all the time until you turn 18 in prison.
So whatever your parents are doing to you, is probably a lot better than what those young ladies in prison would be doing to your tail end.
2006-12-16 06:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not the right thing, because really you're just putting your sister at more of a risk. She's only 11... how would you feel if she got pregnant, or got an STD, when it could have been prevented if you had just told your parents. You're not protecting her, just spoiling her.
2006-12-16 09:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by tanj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋