Planning a large part of my sex life out i would say 75% of it is planned?My hubby does not know that i do this.By planning i mean that i mark days off in my plan book with random ides on what i want to try or do on the side.He is the one who is spontaneous?Should i try to be more spontaneos?I have a thing where i write down every last deatail of anything from from food shopping to sex in my plan book.Is this unhealthy?
2006-12-16 05:02:02 · 11 answers · asked by Kelly V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is the only way i seem to get things done on time wheather for everyday ordinary things like athletic events for my 3 kids or a PTA meeting.
2006-12-16 05:04:36 · update #1
Sex life i think is okay at 3 times a week and hubby does not complain about it?
2006-12-16 05:07:07 · update #2
Scheduling and planning things out are good, for parties and meetings and things of that nature. But don't "plan" every item and move in your life, THAT is obsessive!
2006-12-16 05:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, as long as he is happy and satisfied then that is what counts..The point is, you have kids, responsabilities and you are makeing time for you and your husband..My husband and i have sex 3-5 times a week, and we have been married 8 years and have 4 kids, and spotanany just doesnt work out so great, so as long as it is still exciteing, passionate, and satisfying, then you are a good wife, and a good woman...Many women have lost their places in the home, they think that all they should do is clean the house, cook dinner, take care of the kids, and work, well the man gets lost in the shuffle, but then they wander why he is at the local strip club.....So, dont stress You are doing what you need to do to take care of your husband, and i am sure if you ask him, and tell him your reasoning for doing it he will have no complaints....YOU GO GIRL!!!!
2006-12-16 16:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by laci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, an organized sex partner- I love it! Only kidding..
To me it shows that you have a creative mind and actually care enough about your partner to spice things up. And if he is being spontaneous enough for the both of you, then stay with what works.
Would love to read your planner though...lol
One suggestion, on certain days, write SURPRISE. Those will be YOUR spontaneous days.
2006-12-16 13:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is beneficial to plan in an organizer because it helps with daily tasks. However, if you are writing down your actions and thoughts...it is considered to be a diary. There is nothing wrong with a diary because it may help relieve added emotional stress. Try locking it up for a day, and see how you feel without it.
2006-12-16 13:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by Nut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your hubby is happy and you are happy then I don't see a problem. You might let him schedule in your book that might be a little different and still organized. I wish I was half that organized!!!
2006-12-16 13:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys would give their left nut to find such a plan book in their woman's desk.
Go for it!
2006-12-16 13:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes you sound a little anal, but I don't think it's an issue. Hell, at least you're planning sex and not planning to watch Martha or something.
2006-12-16 13:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by oceanblue_007 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever makes you happy is probaby just fine as long as
hubby is also happy with it...
2006-12-16 13:26:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is weird and very boring! Your husband must be terrible in bed!
2006-12-16 13:11:49 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means you are organized or obsessive compulsive. Bottomline, I dont think that is really a problem.
2006-12-16 13:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋