How can I not be so shy and make myself comfortable talking to people?

Answer 1

Here are a few advices:
First of all, stop worrying about whether the other person is evaluating you. He is probably too busy thinking of himself and what he will say and do. And if that person childishly pokes fun at you, understand that he has the problem. “He who belittles his neighbor lacks sense.” (Proverbs 11:12,) Those who are worth having as friends will judge not by outward appearances but by the kind of person you are.

Also, try to think positively. No one is perfect; all of us have our strengths and our weaknesses. Remember, there are different ways of looking at things, different likes and dislikes. A difference of opinion does not mean a rejection of you as a person.

Learn also to judge others fairly. One formerly shy young man says: “I discovered two things about myself . . . First, I was too self-centered. I was thinking too much about myself, worrying about what people thought of what I said. Second, I was assigning bad motives to the other persons—not trusting them and thinking they were going to look down on me.”

So learn to be sociable—to say hello and start a conversation. It can be as simple as a comment on the weather. Remember: You have only 50 percent of the responsibility. The other half is up to the other person. If you blunder in speech, don’t feel condemned. If others laugh, learn to laugh with them. Saying “That didn’t come out right” will help you to relax and continue with the conversation.

Dress comfortably, but make sure that your clothes are clean and pressed. Feeling that you are looking your best will minimize apprehension in this regard and enable you to concentrate on the conversation at hand. Stand straight—yet be at ease. Look pleasant and smile. Maintain friendly eye contact and nod or verbally acknowledge what the other person says.

Answer 2

i used to be terrible shy and unsure of myself. then i discovered the internet. i found chatlines and made friends by writing back and forth.. i learned to open up and be myself, and that people would learn to love and respect me for who i was.

find someone online to chat with, write them back and forth.. develop a friendship.. share your deepest and most intimate thoughts, goals, fears, etc..

with experience, you will learn to be more confortable with who you are..

and eventually, you can take this new found confidence off the computer and out into the real world..

any time i walk into a new environment, whether it be a new job, or a new group of friends, i'm always the center of attention now.

feel free to e-mail me if you'd like to chat further..

Answer 3

Get a few close friends and get comfortable talking to them, then get a few "just there" friends, and get comfortable talking to them. Work your way up and eventually, you will be comfortable talking to pretty much every1!!! Oh, and my mom said to take drama class!!! lol! Hey, it worked for me!!!

Answer 4

practice in front of the mirror

Answer 5

Be sure of yourself, relax, and stay focused.