Okay my finance wants another baby but i already have 3. Im 23 and i am a medical labaratory technician. I dont want to right now but he wants one and i feel it will be too much on me at the moment. What should i tell him to not hurt his feelings that im not ready right now???
2006-12-16 04:40:57 · 23 answers · asked by brownsugar 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Im not on welfare. I have a excellentjob making over 40,000 a year and They are all his children!!!
2006-12-16 04:51:09 · update #1
You should just tell him honestly how you feel. If he loves you and supports you, then he will understand. Tell him that you love him and that you want to do everything for him, but right now, you think that this is not a good idea for the children you already have and your career. Tell him that you don't want to take any more time away from your children to have to raise yet another child. Plus, you are YOUNG. You should be able to enjoy your youth a little bit. Seriously, if he doesn't understand, I would dump him.
2006-12-16 04:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by supergirl789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that right at the moment isn't the best time. Maybe sometime in the future. I mean you are only 23. You still have the rest of your life to have another baby. If you don't want to then don't. Tell him what you told me. Don't do anything you don't want. to do. There is such a things as putting to much on one person. I think this would be the perfect example. Good Luck
2006-12-16 13:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Hugs and Kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore that second answer! With three kids already at your tender age it certainly IS all about you - and how can you "compromise" on this issue? Get slightly pregnant? Have half a baby? Just tell him straight that you simply cannot cope with yet another child and he'll have to be satisfied with the three you've got. And don't forget............he's only your fiance.
2006-12-16 12:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by artleyb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. 23 and 4 babies is too much. tell him you're not ready right now. are the other kids his? how old are they? you are really young, and you have a lot of time left to have a baby. do you have the money? don't have one if you dont think you're ready.
2006-12-16 12:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him how much you love him,and that right now you have enough on your plate and you are not ready to have another child right now.Tell him to give you more time and then later you both will discuss having another child,but not right now.
2006-12-16 12:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really think 40,000 is enough to support 3 children and maybe a fourth.....23 and 3 kids really you shouldn't have anymore
2006-12-16 13:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by KP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 3 kids already, you have every right to not want another
I hope it doesn't, but should your relationship ever go sour, who will be left holding the baby, bills and responsibility?
2006-12-16 12:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him - you don't want to, and it isn't fair to bring a child into the world when both parents aren't ready and/or willing. Best of luck.
2006-12-16 12:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by skatoolaki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just do what my sis did her husband wanted a girl they already have 4 boys she doesnt want any more kids so they set a time frame and she told him she wasnt on birth control even though she was she took it at work and they decided if it happeneds it happeneds if it doesnt it dont and leave it at that.. well it didnt happen for them as they have there hands full enough and now shes getting her tubes tied.
2006-12-16 12:45:24 · answer #9 · answered by evilella 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should have another baby because if your only 23 and have 3 kids alrwady thats pretty bad... So i would say , " Not right a way"
2006-12-16 12:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by kelsiegran 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋