How come ever since my doctors appt. yeasterday that confermed my pregnancy, my husband has been treating my like crap? Picking fights with me and just being mean towards me. We have two other kids, and I dont remember him doing this to me. we usually do really good together and dont fight much. I have lost one baby due to stress, and know thats my fear, to loose another baby. I tell him to back off of me, and its just makes him mader at me and yells more. What can I do or say to make him see what he is doing to me? and our baby?? Thanks
2006-12-16 04:40:17 · 10 answers · asked by kristin h 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
for some guys its hard to face the facts and as for some woman to find out theres a baby on the way can run every emotion in a person most of us deal well with it but like my hubby i love him dearly he lost it when he found out i was pregnant again...we have 6 kids, 2 are mine, 3 are ours, and 1 is his well 5 are home all the time....he didnt want any more at all almost moved out the whole nine yards...i told him i know your scared and its going to be tuff even though we struggle some times but we have everything we need always... guys just dont want to grow up any more than they have to, having yet another baby can and does change things..maybe hes worried it will be a lot on you and he doesnt want to come home from work with you tearing into him about how hard things are with the kids...just let him know your fine with it and you would like him to be to but if he needs some time then you will be there waiting...
2006-12-16 04:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by evilella 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he probably doesn't want anymore kids! how old are you?and was this pregnancy planned?i think he is just over whelmed.i have 2 kids and I'm 18,my husband was excited for the first pregnancy,but after the second one he felt like i didn't have time for him any more. that could be whats on with your husband.what you can do is take one day of the weekend or one day your both off and just spend it together.take the kids to there grandparents house to to a friends house and just have one night alone.that is what I've been doing with my husband and everything is back the way it was,men just need that alone time they used to get before the kids came!!good luck and i hope everything works out for the best.if you like you could email me if you have questions or if you want someone to talk to. maribelm2005@yahoo.com
2006-12-16 13:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by mari 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen to me. I was pregnant, Ive only had one baby and my baby's dad was very rude towards me and called me names and was mean. I was always crying and felt like dying. I told my doctor what was going on and he set me up to talk to a social worker and they can help you out, maybe talking about and things like that. Of course Im not longer with my ex because he was abusive and the best thing to do was leave. But on you're hand its different. Good luck with everything and I hope you have a healthy baby.
2006-12-16 12:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by Aby 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG did you read action c's comment? How rude!!!!!!!! Anyway, I'd say your husband is probably just surprised or stressed. Another baby might interfere with his plans for the future. Give it time, he'll come around. It's not like you can do anything about it NOW.
2006-12-16 12:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by msleslies 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say why he is acting like this,perhaps he was not wanting another baby and he is angry about it.But he needs to realize that your pg by him,it takes two to make a baby and that he needs to get use to the idea of having a nerw baby really soon.
2006-12-16 12:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it can still shock even someone who already has kids. It doesn't make it ok, it's not good for your health your babies, or your other kids to have that tension, relax and hang in there, not meaning to stay, just take care and do what you need to.
2006-12-16 12:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by bdearone 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband was like this. Because he was afraid.
i call his parents, and told his dad what he was doing to me. While crying the whole time.
His dad tracked him down and beat some sense in to him... and then his mom got ahold of him.
You can bet from that point on he's been in a different state of mind.
Parents are amazing things.
2006-12-16 12:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe he didn't want to have another child...? i don't think anyone knows the answer but him, but he could just be stressing because you're having another one. bring up the fact that what he's doing to you could cause you to lose the baby and see how he handles that. sometimes you have to put the worst case scenerio in their face for them to see what they're doing is harmful even though they might not see it that way.
2006-12-16 12:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by lildrumagrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time to talk. Just sit him down and say Ok what? Maybe he's also worried you will miscarry or maybe something else if bothering him but time to find out.
2006-12-16 12:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he did not want this baby,for you an him talk to a pro about this not online
2006-12-16 12:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by bigdogrex 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋