im a 16 year old female and i need advice. im about to "do it" and i want to know if im doing the right thing. im having mixed feelings about it and i dont know what to do. please help me.
2006-12-16 04:21:08 · 15 answers · asked by lori 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I am a mother of a 19 year old daughter and a 16 year old son. So, I would say, if you have feelings about this boy, you are comfortable with him and YOU ARE SAFE, using protection. Then sure, go for it. But if you are feeling like you are being pressured tell him to go to hell, clip your nails and take care of "urges" yourself for now until you feel more comfortable. Because you can never get back your first time. You should feel some sense of good about it, not total regret. make him work for it a little bit at least by setting the mood with things you like. Communicate to him about safety and what you two will be doing about that-AHEAD of time. And be sure to follow through with that piece of it. But be free, it can be a great experience.
2006-12-16 04:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by JAQUELINE B 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honey trust me, everyone else is going to tell you not to do it. Im just going to tell you, if your not sure, or a little scared, dont do it. If you are sure that its what you want, do it. Just make sure your comfortable in the situation first, because if your not, then it may be something you will regret or you will forget. I was 15 when i lost my virginity and while i dont regret it, i certainly forgot it. If you want to remember the first time then maybe you should wait until you are a little more experienced and the man you are with is a little more experienced and remember to use protection because pregnancy isnt the only thing you have to worry about.
2006-12-16 04:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by Big red 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't seem confident about doing it, so I wouldn't do it. Losing you virginity should be a special, satisfying, and exciting experience. You should never feel pressured or feel like sex will bring the two of you closer. Not to mention that things should be planned ahead as far as protection and location. Losing your viriginity in the movie theaters or friend's bedroom is never a pleasureable and exciting memory. And, are you old enough to even take on the responsiblity of having sex? What happens if you get pregnant? Is this the man you want to have kids with? If I were you, I would save you virginity until the time is right. Until you are old enough to deal with any consequences envolved. You are still young and you will have plenty of chances to lose you virginty. Thats right, don't lose your virginity!!! Its not like losing a set of house keys that you can get a spare copy of. You should treat your virginity like a prize. Treasure it.
2006-12-16 04:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by prettyaspnk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are too young to make that kind of desion. Why are you choosing to give it up. I mean if you are having mixed feelings that is something inside telling you it might not be such a good idea. Think about it fully and wait. I mean how come it is so hard for kids today to just wait, at least till they are out of high school. It is not a bad thing to be a virgin you know, or to wait. So since you are having mixed feelings you might want to hold off on giving yourself up.
2006-12-16 04:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by bandfreak_06_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having mixed feelings about having sex then don't do it. Unless you are prepared to deal with an accidental pregnancy no matter how careful you are you are not ready for sex. Also be aware that once you have intercourse you need to have a yearly pap and pelvic exam. Save your first time for the one who really takes your breath away and that you know you want to spend the rest of your life with. Sex can wait but once you do have sex you can never go back to where you were before. With sex comes the responsibility to deal with possible pregnancy, yearly pap and pelvic exams and then endless possibility of STD's. Good Luck with your decision.
2006-12-16 04:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having mixed feelings, why don't you wait until you figure them out. Once you figure them out, you'll know what to do. You're having these mixed feelings for a reason. If you feel comfortable discussing your feelings with your mom, that might help. She was 16-teen once too. :)
2006-12-16 10:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Fraulein 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My feeling, and that of many others on Yahoo!Answers in the past is if you are having mixed feelings, don't "do" it. You can never "undo" it, and if it is not right, it can cause even more mixed feelings.
To put it really simplistically, until it feels totally right, it is totally wrong.
2006-12-16 04:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have mixed feelings about it, then you should not do it. you're only 16, you have the whole rest of your life to have sex... you are not ready. wait a few years and "do it" when you're in love...
2006-12-16 05:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by amcol_soc07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont want to tell you yes or no, but if you feel thats he's the one then that is your decision.
2006-12-16 04:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lil_Starz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personal experience I would wait if I was you. I would wait until your married or you found the one your going to marry. You are going to be so upset with your self and feel so disgusted with your self. Please wait if you cant make sure you use protection.
2006-12-16 04:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋