why is my friend being bullied?

Question

my friend is being buliied for being skinny ive known ma friend for years and i know know she cant put on weight and she eats loads shes funny out going very pretty and i have stuck up to the bullies they still keep bulling i have told her to tell her mum but she says im 18 and can look after myself the truth is she cant everytime i see the bullies corner her she doesnt stick up for herself im very upset by this

Answer 1

Hello

Bullies usually pick on someone weaker than them, and they are usually in a group. As on their own they are just chicken themselves. They do it for power. They do it if someones prettier than them, brainer and talented. They pick on people who are different to them, size, weight, looks, wears glasses, has a disability, is in a lower set to them or higher, faily background, colour and theres so many reasons mate .

I was just like your friend when i was at school. Im skinny and cant gain weight and never could, guess i never will!!! And i eat alot. I used to get called names such as witch (although i turned out to be one Lol), rakey, nasty comments were said such as you smell, go have a bath.

Some of the girls in my school used to tell me to do their homework for them or they'd beat me up. Silly me though i used too. It wasnt just me who was bullied it was also my two mates aswel. It made me very down but i always tried to put a brave face on. I didnt want the bullies to see i was really scared of them. So its more than likely that your mate is doing this aswel.

I put up with it from my 1st year of high school till my 4th year. I think your mate needs to realise that if she DOESNT start to stand up to people who try to bully her NOW, she will experience this and always fall victim to bullying through her life. Workplaces are worse than school or college. I stood up to my bullies. When one of them handed me her homework one afternoon i just turned round and said to her, "no you do it. im not doing it anymore". I remember she said to me that i thought i was really hard. I remember saying to her im not at all hard but im not a bully either and i dont think myself perfect. She punched me in the face (which gave me a black eye) and i still refused to be bullied anymore.

To cut along story short her and her mates did try my patience a few more times but after i stood upto them they realised they were wasting their breath. It also encouraged my two mates to stick up to them and eventually they left us alone. (unfortuantly they started on someone else then).

So tell your mate she needs to stand upto them. You can tell the police or another trust worthy adult, but in the long run its better she does the standing up herself.

If she gets to a point where shes so down and depressed and thinking suisidal thoughts REPORT IT TO THE POLICE PLEASE.

Good luck to your mate x

Answer 2

Those are some stupid bullies, your friend should definitely not change her weight to satisfy them. What does her mom mean 'She's eighteen she can take care of herself,' you might have caught her just in a bad mood. That's not right, people shouldn't be bullied like that.
The situation's pretty sticky, especially because she's eighteen. As far as I can tell, which isn't very far at all in this case; you should talk to your friend more. Perhaps about not sticking up for herself. Stand by her for sure. Those bullies defnitely have another thing coming. Ugh, this disgusts me. Remember, though, most bullies' lives are harder than your own, and this is an extremely vague and inaccurate thing for me to say, little as I know about the situation, but most bullies really have it so hard that they take it out on others, because their family or outer or emotional or physical, mental or other lives are in a mess of trouble. For all we know, the bullies could be depressed.

If your friend is just being bullied, not necessarily by bullies, but by most people in the [school?] then tell her to be rational. I really can't recommend much at all because I'm very much deprived of the whole of the situation. Good luck though ☺

Answer 3

Honestly I hate Violence but the best way to deal with Bullies is to dish out a severe beating to their leader, They will not come back.
I used to be a bit of a Bully and I am not proud of it, in fact i am ashamed, But I am proud of the fact that i always looked after my friends who were a little timid and scared to confront other their Bullies.
It is good that you are sticking up for your buddy, but if it continues , do as i say and give em a good smacking.

I hate Bullies, Liars & Theifs, they are the scum of the earth.

Answer 4

Whatever happens always back a friend up.

Everytime girls have fights their friends are nowhere to be seen.

Have a united front up and work on her to stand up for herself, also you want to let someone at school like a teacher you like and trust know. It sounds like the girls may be jealous, they don't get jealous of girls who they think are pretty, they get jealous of girls who attract attention from boys. Girls are obssessed with boys far more than they let on.

Try and get more friends together to scare them up, especially big butch girls! Perhaps even some boys, they get scared when they think you have more back up especially from people they respect.

Contrary to popular belief the only thing that bullies understand is violence. I have seen it happen all around my school.

Watch a Bruce Lee film, do karate and kick some bully butt!

Answer 5

Well maybe they think that her being so skinny and can't gain any weight on her that they think that is nasty and doesn't like her for that or they probably got bullied in the past for being too fat you know i think she should tell her mom about this before it go too far..... okay well hope you get some help from my advice to you

Answer 6

your friend is being bullied because shes allowing them too.You have to remember bullies have low self esteem.They feed off making over people feel bad and use peoples weaknesses.they are obviously jealous of your friend and would love to be like her try to remind your friend of this.Depending on what type of bullying this is i.e name calling or physical I would tell your friend to ignore the name calling hard as it may be(bully's tend to have a low attention span and soon get bored)But should it include violence I would suggest to your friend that she should tell an adult..may be not her parents or that she could take a few self defence classes.Bully's are the lowest of the low send my best wishes to your friend

Answer 7

Bullies are made by parents who abuse, beat, and neglect there children. That is just one efect a bullie used to be bullied on themselves i bet they starve for attention they never got. When there hands where out for a freind no one was there for them. Not sticking up for bullies but i used to be one my self so this comes from my personal effects. These are my opinions ok so every ones are going to be differnt!

Answer 8

honey...bullies come in groups...wait till you see the main bully on her own and confront her, bullies are also cowards and do not pick on anyone while they are by themselves...you could call the police if this continues...this should not be tolerated or better still get an older member of her family to deal with it their way...they are nothing but spineless scum.....get them back one by one....i don't mean gang up on them, i mean have them arrested....i hate bullies, i was a victim of bullying when i was younger and i put up with it throughout high school, the day i left i got the main bully and gave her a good hiding, she never came near me again after that...and not one of her mates stuck up for her because i challenged them all too....get this bully and have her slung in jail...there's too much of this happening these days....tell your friend she is beautiful and to take no notice to these idiots...they are just slime bags who will get no where in life...and will prolly end up with a bunch of kids, on drugs with no jobs living on a run down council estate with nothing...she is 1000 times better than this lot....tell her to do something about it by reporting them all.....

Answer 9

I'm sure the bullies are just made that shes cute. Maybe you should anonymously tell someone. let a teacher know or maybe a vice principle... your friend could get REALLY hurt one day by those girls.

Answer 10

Sounds like a job for the police