My daughter won't visit the Gyno, because she is to scared. What do i do ? She really need's to go, PLZ HELP

Question

My daughter is only 15 but, has a personal problem which needs to be sorted by a Gyno. ( really horrid smelly discharge) not normal

She is very embarassed, and scared about being examined.
So is refusing to go.

What do i do ?

I don't want to, force her to go, but she really needs to !!

PLZ help. any advice very grateful for

Answer 1

She should definitely been seen by a doc. asap.
Planned Parenthood has great counselors, they help many young women.
They would discuss everything with her before she gets treated.
You could start with a phone call.

Answer 2

I went to the GYNO for the fist time this past summer, I was extremely scared. The thing that worked best for me was going with my sister. She held my hand the whole time and didn't laugh or anything like that. Maybe she could bring a friend with her, and have her be in the exam room with her while you waited outside. There are somethings a girl does not want her mom around for.

If you think her smelly discharge is not associated to her being sexually active this might be something her pediatrician can take care of.

I would tell her what she can expect, tell her that her doctor wont judge her, and that you only have her best interests in mind. Tell her that when she gets to the gynecologist that her doctor won't just poke around without telling her what's going on and that her doctor can explain every step.

GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 3

You may have to force her to go. She might be embarassed but any kind of "horrid smelly discharge" could signal some serious problems. It could be result of poor hygiene, infection or worse. Not doing something about it could later affect fertility, overall health, etc.

Make it easier for her by giving her the choice of finding the gynocologist. Look for a women's healtchare center or call your own mother/sister/etc. to refer a good gynocologist to you.

You need to stress the importance of going to the doctor. Yes, it is embarassing and sometimes not as comfortable as we'd like, but when you get there, let the doctor know that she is uncomfortable and scared, and the doctor, if he/she knows what is good for them, will do their best to make sure that their patient is as comfortable and at ease as possible.

As a chica, my first trip to the gynocologist was traumatic, but I bucked up and went. I actually prefer a male gynocologist to a woman one (at first I thought it would be hideously embarassing, but it's the same essentially-anyone male or female looking at the most secret part of you can be un-nerving). The male gynocologist I use is actually a little less 'gruff' than the female one I had to begin with. I have a female friend who agrees with me.

I don't know if you're a man or woman but, you should explain to her what happens when you go to a gynocologist. The nurse will take your vitals, bloodpressure, pulse, weight, etc. You will have to 'pee in a cup'. That is a test to determine if you have any infections.

Then you will go to the waiting room, then go to a back room where they may or may not ask you to de-pants (take your lower items of clothing off) they will give you a sheet or a paper dress to clothe yourself with and cover yourself. You will wait and be nervous until the doctor finally comes in. As a parent, you can offer support and be with your daughter or if she's a private person, promise to wait outside in the waiting room. The doctor will come in and (if it is the first time) will explain what he/she will do. He/she will ask about the symptoms. BE specific. She will need to be completely honest about any symptoms she has had, any pain, swelling, the fishy odor, EVERYTHING. If she does not be completely honest, the doctor may not be able to accurately diagnose the problem. He/she will then begin an examination of the area. He/she will put on gloves and use KY jelly to make things go a little more smoothly. It is an unpleasant expirence, but it has to happen, it's part of life. He/she will ask if there is pain, discomfort besides the normal embarassing type.

More than likely, he/she will want to do a papsmear and send it off to the lab to see results. This is not a particularly comfortable thing, but is about the same as an examination. The doctor (if a male will have a female nurse observing) will insert a speculum (a tool used to widen the area so that a sample can be taken) and a "scraper" will be inserted so that it can scratch (lightly) and capture cells from the inner walls, so that a sample can be taken and sent to the lab to see if there is infection that the urine sample did not capture.

Generally after this, the doctor will be finished unless he/she wishes to run more tests. If an answer is readily available to your daughter's ailment, then you'll be prescribed some antibiotics or some kind of solution to solve the problem and be on your way. He/She might also ask your daughter (yes even though she is 15) if she has had any sexual activity and if so, prescribe contraceptives.

This information may not be completely what will happen and in no way am I saying that I am a doctor and know what everything entails. I'm just a woman who has had a baby and been through to see the doctor a few times and know what I've gone through. This is typically to me what happens. I wish you the best of luck and hope that you can convince your daughter to go to the doctor before she suffers any serious affliction from not going.

Being truthful and honest about things that happen here is hopefully a good way to comfort your daughter. Letting her know that there is minimal pain involved (if it can be helped) and little embarassment (ALL women have to go through this-let her know she isn't alone) may allow her to see the whole perspective.

Answer 4

For a young girl that has never gone it can be a very scary experience... First of all with what you have already described she has to go immediatly!!! As and ER tech, I know there are a number of very serious concerns she should not put off, depending on what she has it could get worse to the piont of sterility, or even spetic shock (can lead to death if not treated)...
Finding a gyno is not always easy but a good one will work with your daughter, a full gyno work up is reccomended, but at the very least they can do a swab, if you have and established Dr for yourself they should allow her to do the swab... Gently explain the best a worst of a gyno exam, and as hard as it may be don't get to frustrated with her she'd 15 and facing a big thing here. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

Be a parent and make her go. You can explain to her that the gynocologist has seen every problem possible that can happen down below and they've seen it tons and tons of times. Just like any doctor the visit is completely confidential and the exams are quick and painless. Make sure that the gynocologist is a woman, when I was a young girl I was terrified to go and embarrased to even have an exam because I thought it would be a man performing it.

Answer 6

Take her to a woman Gyn and let her be with the doctor alone. It will make things less nerve wracking for her.

The first time I went to a Gyn I was 19 and I had an infection. I was nervous too. But, going to a woman Gyn helped me be less nervous.

Answer 7

find a woman doctor. if you can't find a woman doctor, you may find a doctor's practice with a female nurse practitioner. that's what i have and she is nicer and spends more time with me and knows more than any doctor i ever had.

also, tell her you will go in with her and hold her hand.

tell the doctor/nurse that you want the smallest speculum they have. it will be easier on her tender body.

tell her the only thing to fear is the fear itself. if it were such an awful thing to go thru, we would all be picketing doctor's offices to make them find a better way.

finally, it wouldn't hurt to offer her a reward, maybe that CD she has been wanting, for being so brave.

Answer 8

You need to take her to OBGYN because there could be something wrong with her. You need to found out what's wrong before its to late. I know she scared i was that way too when i was young than her. But its something all of us need to do. [young girls and women] Its for her safety. p/s It could be a simple yest infection . The only way to tell is to take her to a OBGYN. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 9

Find her a woman doctor.

Stay out of the exam room so she can be honest with the doctor. She doesn't want you to know she is having sex.

Answer 10

Take her to a women gyno.