Husbands & Wives:How do you two get away from it all and spend time with eachother to reconnect?

Question

You are dealing with jobs, kids, etc. Give me ideas.

Answer 1

Put the kids to bed. Get some aired up balloons and fill the bedroom. then some candles, fruit, wine and have a bedroom party. Hire a sitter and go the Hotel with spa's and some wine. Learn to dirty dance for him. Take him out on a date. Buy him Flowers the works. He will love it. Ask all your family to chip in for Christmas gift and pay for that nice hotel night away for you. It should be a fun thing. Mysterious. Keeps them interested. I know. I took mine to a hotel with chicken dinner for a picnic, rose on the plate, tub full of bubbles., oil rubs. He thought he was king. We had a good time so will you. Routine is boring so spice it up. Your in a rut !

Answer 2

No matter what....my husband and I have 2 date nights a month. He will plan one and I will plan the other. This of course works best if you have someone regular to watch your kids and so on.
However, there are months that we cannot get a date night in due to dinner parties or business trips. The most important thing aside from getting time out of the house to yourselves is make it a priority to get some alone time even at home. This doesn't mean sex either. It is equally important for spouses to sit down ( we do ours in the evenings after kids are in bed ) just to talk. The television goes off or we go out on the patio with a glass of wine. He tells me what has been going on his world ( work. etcccc) and I tell him what is going on in my world ( kids, soccer, dance lessons and so on ) Many spouses feel like the other doesn't are what is going on in their personal day to day dealings, so I feel these talks are imperative to a good healthy marriage.
Also, if your financial budget can allow, at least once or twice a year try to get away from it all for a weekend. Twice a year, my husband and I take a weekend to a downtown hotel and go to a nice dinner, drinks and so on. And if you can, try to get a short vacation in once a year without the kids....doesn't have to be some tropical destination, maybe just 3 or 4 days alone in some city within close distance to yours that you have never been before or a city that you enjoy. We always plan a mini vacation for ourselves then of course a big one with the kids.

Remember....connect with your husband nightly if you can just sitting and talking. Get a playful too....and that usually leads to other things that are alot more fun than talking.

Answer 3

We check into a local hotel. It seems really decadent to do this so close to home and avoids the stress of traveling out of town. Since you are obviously not going to want to sight see, shop, etc. like you would out of town - it becomes a time when you are together without any other distractions. We like to pack a picnic basket, take our own champagne and/or wine and never leave the hotel - which also cuts down on the expense. Don't forget to pack some sexy night clothes! Also - ordering room service for breakfast the next morning is relatively inexpensive and adds to the fun of indulging yourselves. Try it - it does work.
Besides, if you have kids you leave with a friend or relative overnight, you are only a phone call away if something comes up.

Answer 4

I know this is going to sound so cliche but you need to make a date night even if its only once a month to reconnect. Its very important for the marriage to have some special time alone. I hope you have some willing babysitters so you can do this. Its a great ego booster for both of you to just be able to hold hands someplace like when you first got together. If you have reliable sitters try and steal a weekend away at a B&B! Hope it works for ya. Merry Christmas, God Bless!

Answer 5

I know exactly how you feel -I have been married for 8 years and have 3 children. We try and have "date night" each week. Even if we plan to just watch a movie or take a bath together - we do. And once a month we take our date night into the outside world. We usually go for dinner and maybe even to a movie. It is awesome and you can really enjoy each other. We also try not to bring up any stresses like jobs, family etc. We focus on each other and it is wonderful.

Good luck and Merry Christmas!

Answer 6

My husband and I have found that it is easier to reconnect in the evening after the kids are in bed. We rented a hotel room once and spent the nite there.

Answer 7

My wife and I like to go to a hot springs. At least twice a year we let the grandparents take our daughter for the weekend and we head out for one of the hot springs in our area, of course we are in Montana and there are 4 different hot spring resorts within 150 miles of our home.
My wife usually pics which one, they very from rustic cabins to very nice hotels.
We usually spend some time in the water, then go have a nice dinner, then dance and drinks, then a little romance, followed by a good nights sleep, break fest in bed (after sleeping in and a little more romance of course).
It woks for us.

Answer 8

You just have to make the time. Schedule a time when you know the children will be ok with their sitter or family member, so you won't worry or constantly think about them and have time to focus on your spouse. Do something that will create memories, and remind them that no other person could give them emotionly and physically what you do.

Answer 9

You just HAVE to make time. My husband and I make time for a few hours every night. Also, atleast once a month we spend a weekend alone. My brother takes the kids.

Answer 10

it is very hard for my husband and i to find time together. my husband goes to school full time, works full time, and is a youth minister. i work full time and i just got a part time job. not because we have to but because we like to be busy. but we try to schedule our days off the same. 2 weeks ago we went to the woods and cut down a christmas tree together. it was so much fun!!!!