I am in a long- distance relationship with my fiance of 3 years. I recently returned from spending 3 weeks with him. During my time there, he was so wonderful! He'd wake up and make me tea, I'd see a commercial on TV at 1 am that advertised M&M's and I'd tell him to go to the store and he happily got up and walked to get them. I could not believe how sweet he was and how responsible he was. I never paid for anything and he always said I am responsible for you and always made sure I was OK . I was so happy there, but I just had this nagging feeling to run him off. It's almost like it is too good to be true and I cannot deal with it.
What do you think is wrong with me?
2006-12-16 03:31:45 · 11 answers · asked by consigliere 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He lives in a foreign country.
2006-12-16 03:36:50 · update #1
well i happen to be going through something like this with my g/f so i might be able to help. perhaps in the past you have been hurt or cheated on or just treated poorly by men. this has caused some distrust and disbelief in you towards them,so finally when mr. right comes along you push him away before he has a chance to hurt you like every one else did. unfortunately,the only way to find out is to put yourself out there. getting hurt sucks but if you don't open up then you can miss out on all the realy good stuff to. just remember he's not those other guys and he hasn't done that stuff to you. start this relationship fresh without any pre-conceived notions or suspitions. he obviously cares greatly for you. let him love you, after all, you're worth it!
2006-12-16 03:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by fac3d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems a case of,,'is the sweet inside as shiny as the wrapper'? it may be that because of prior relationships you are pushing him so as to release the devil inside,he will be there but maybe not in the way you think,,he is sweet to you,he treats you with respect yet here you are waiting for something to go the way you expect and then you can say,"i knew you were not all you made yourself out to be",but if that happens,where will it leave you? the truth is that if you spend your whole life looking backwards you miss the stuff right infront of you,,enjoy what you have with this person until you dont anymore but dont cut off your nose to spite your face or you may just push him too far and he will think you just are not worth the effort.there are good men out there and unless you feel you have dated all men surely you can admit that he could be one of the good ones too,,go on,,give yourself a break and let the wall down,you could surprise yourself!
2006-12-16 03:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH' HONEY NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU.. FIRST THING LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS REALLY IF EVERY WORK.. HE'S NICE CAUSE YOU DON'T HAVE TO SEE HIM EVERY DAY, THAT MAKES A BIG DIFFERENCE. JUST THINK OF PEOPLE YOU SEE EVERYDAY, YOU GET TO SEE THE GOOD AND THE BAD, THAT'S HOW IT'S SUPPOSE TO BE...A;SO AGE HOW OLD ARE YOU AND THE GUY.. BEING HONEST FIND SOMEONE AROUND WHERE YOU LIVE YOU'LL HAVE A BETTER CHANCE OF A GOOD RELATIONSHIP.. DON'T GET ME WRONG HE MIGHT BE A NICE PERSON, BUT EVERYONE HAS THEIR SHITTY SIDE. AND THAT MIGHT BE THE ONE THAT'S REAL BAD.. ANOTHER THING IF YOU REALLY NEED SOMEONE TO HELP YOU WITH THIS QUESTION, THEN YOU GUT IS SAYING MOVE ON.. REALLY YOU ANSWERED YOU OWN QUESTION
WV.LEFTY
2006-12-16 03:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel that no matter what you do he will be there. But believe me that is not the case. stop and think about it before you do anything. Once he is gone and realizes that you might have been trying to see just how much you could get away with. He probably will not take you back.
2006-12-16 03:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by ericnh79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easy to be wonderful from thousands of miles away and most certainly would he be on his best behavior if you're only actually with him for 3 weeks at a time.Trust your instincts. The comment he made about him being responsible for you is troubling. To me he sounds like a closet control freak.
2006-12-16 15:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by sunset28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're not ready to get married? I don't know, sometimes when you realize that you're making a commitment you tend to get scared. But, if you find something wrong with it all, then maybe you should just talk it out.
2006-12-16 03:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this could be your subconcious telling you that he is not the one. but i would give it a chance. i think you're afraid of the commitment and subsequent rejection because it's too good to be true, but you never know unless you give it a chance.
2006-12-16 03:34:27 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long term long distance relationships seldom work out..
2006-12-16 03:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are no better than men. He doesn't appeal to you on some physical attraction level.
2006-12-16 03:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by Wayne C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sometimes feel that way too.. ive been with mine for 3 years also and sometimes i just get mad. hes the same way, he would do anything for me. I know how you feel but i dont know why it happens. but your not the only one
2006-12-16 03:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by Brennah L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋