Since moving in both grades and his lies are progressivly worse. He lies almost continually, caught him numerous times. He is failing 4 of 6 classes, now on the 5 year plan. I want him to grow into a great man, he is so great otherwise. Teachers and freinds say he is the sweetest person you could have around. I want to enjoy him now that I have the chance but need to help him correct these two problmes. What is the best way to deal with this issue?
2006-12-16 02:57:25 · 5 answers · asked by JimLeon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
At 17 it's going to be very hard to change him. But you can start with insisting he spend time with you - at least once a week. Insisting that BEFORE he goes out or watches TV, plays video games, etc. that you check his homework and check with the teachers on what homework he has. You're going to have to sit down with him and help him with his homework and get involved to the best of your ability and as much as he will let you without it being overkill for him. If you overcrowd or make too many rules at once - he'll rebel and at 17 you don't want him doing that. You have to be creative and make him think he has a strong influence in what's going on. And most of all make the rewards for doing his homework and getting good grades really big, but not breaking your wallet (such as using the car if he's responsible, an exta hour on curfew for a weekend, concert ticket for an A in a class, etc.) But he HAS to earn those!
Good luck to you!
2006-12-16 03:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times, in our life, when we are reviving old memories we get into a phase of nostalgia. We feel that we could have done better than what we had achieved. Be it thinking about that nerve shattering school result, because of which you couldn't get into your favorite stream or that single mark, which could have secured you a merit seat in your engineering college. But thinking back wont rewind the tireless worker called time. All we can do is promise ourselves that we will give our very best in the future. But do we really keep up to our mental commitments? I can guess that 90% answers are in the negative. This is because of that creepy careless attitude which is slowly, but surely entering into the mind of teenagers like us. We easily forget the pains of yesterday to relish the joys of today. This is the only time in our life, when we can control our fate, by controlling our mind. So it is time to pull up our socks and really motivate ourselves so that we can give our best shot in the future. Self-motivation is the need of the hour. Only we can control and restrict ourselves. Its upto us, how we use our mental capabilities to the best of our abilities.
Here are some Funda's for self-motivation. Don't just read them digest each one of them and apply them and I bet it will make a better YOU.
The ultimate motivator is defeat. Once you are defeated, you have nowhere to go except the top.
Then only thing stopping you is yourself.
There is no guarantee that tomorrow will come. So do it today.
Intentions don't count, but action's do.
Don't let who you are, stunt what you want to be.
Success is the greatest motivator.
Your goals must be clear, but the guidelines must be flexible.
2006-12-16 03:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by cuttielittleboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to connect with him. He has a lot of resentment and hate built up. Get the issues on the table, allow him to say what he needs to. After that, begin being a parent to him. Restricting his access to everything, unless his grades go up. When he starts bringing back better grades, start giving him his rights back. Most of all, grow a backbone, and dont' let him get away with it. Does he have any learning problems? Might wanna check into that. Does he have a new girlfriend? You must find out excatly what is causing him stress, and reduce it. That's how you do it.
2006-12-16 03:02:54 · answer #3 · answered by C.B. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he lying? He needs some counseling, is he doing drugs? What's the relationship with the other parent? That may be the answer or the problem...good luck
2006-12-16 03:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that you can do much to change him now..
Hopefully, before he gets into too much trouble, he will grow up.
2006-12-16 03:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋